What is Personal Development?

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Interesting topic!

For me, personal development is trying to learn and grow and be the best you can be. This is something I've often done through trial-and-error! For awhile, I dabbled in positive thinking, then moved on to redefining and making changes at a more subconscious level. It's involved confronting fear and learning to love myself.

In my case, I can definitely say that my journey has made me a stronger person. Personal development can take you deeply within yourself, but in the end the kindness you show yourself and the things that you learn help you to better understand others and to be more compassionate.

I hope that makes sense! :)

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Hey Msuccess

I agree with you. We start the self development path out of some frustration. I have never meet a person who does not have a story of a turning point in their lives that has connected them to this path. And it can be a shaky road to say the least. I always look to the specialists and while I want to know their story because there are heaps of lessons in that, I am also looking for their approach on how to overcome what they have. I am a head hunter for specialist tools, because I like adding new tools to my kit. However I don't just read and then have a new strategy, I have to test it and see if it works for me. There have been many failed and successful attempts. And these days I am more looking for where I go wrong because I am getting it right a lot more times these days. That does not mean I am empowered all the times, it just means I am okay with tripping up. Thanks for the post.[/QUOTE]
 
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Hey everyone!

To me, personal development means constantly seeking out advice, tips, strategies, and everything in between in order to improve oneself. I agree with @thedigger0 in the fact that self/personal development evolves out of some sort of frustration that is going on in your life. In order to move past that frustration, you seek out advice/help, hence self development.

Hope this forum is still as active as it looks!

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You got my point, that's really what am I trying to put out. Nothing beats your own experience but you.
I'm going through a bad experience of failure and I want to improve myself. I'm grad for your comment and ideas from others in this thread that I thinks will help me to beat by past experience. It's up to me. Thanks and keep it up.
 

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I never realized the power in developing myself until I was let go from a position I had for 7 1/2 years. It was then that I took time to explore who I was, discover my own value, and what I wanted to do with my life. I was a coach for years but never took the time to look at my own life. What an eye opener. For most of my life, I was following in my sisters footsteps and therefore never recognized I had not been using my own gifts. I think most people don't realize their own potential, or believe they are capable of achieving the life they desire. We aren't taught to go after dreams, we are taught to pick a career that will pay well and that we might like or be good at. Personally, I believe that this is the reason for many people living unhappy. Personal Development should start early in life. We should be educating our children to explore their gifts and to grow. In today's society, we tend to believe that education stops after graduating. We should never stop learning or gaining knowledge. With that being said, knowledge, unused, is worthless. Today, I constantly am in awe at how much I have learned since discovering my purpose and it is what drives me to help others find theirs.
 

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It's amazing how a person's mind begins to transform whether by force or choice. Too often this transformation begins by force (job loss, family loss, identity loss, dramatic incident). The truth of the matter is that we have longed for growth since birth. Life - family, environment, etc - wears on us. Earl Nightingale said, "The opposite of courage in our society is not cowardice... it is conformity." Life and its many challenges strip us of our courage to act. It tries to break us into conformity. But, there's a light in us all that wants to shine. That light is what you see in a person that is living on purpose. That person walks into a room and you notice that he or she just shines and your drawn to them. Why is that? That's a good question to ponder. The person that is not drawn to achievement, success, happiness is that one that is on the way out. If only we learned to be as great as we imagined ourselves to be when we were children. If only we knew how to become the person that we still want to be. If only we could get ourselves to get up and stretch ourselves to live the life that we always wanted. Luckily, for me, my father taught my sister and I to be better today than we were yesterday. Sadly, I tested and tested and tested how far I could go in the other direction. I wanted to do me. 'Doing me' took me a lot of fun places. So, why was I unfulfilled? Why do you feel unfulfilled? I'll bet that you have had some fairly enjoyable experiences, right? If you truly think about it. You can name some. Something is still missing though... Personal development makes that transition from where you are to where you want to be. It does it by transforming your mind and challenging your beliefs. Then, it slowly begins to deliver the things that you have desired. Test me on this and find out for yourself. Love yourself just enough to do a little E-V-E-R-Y day. Personal development must become a commitment not something your interested in. Little to no results come from being interested. Your desires and more come from commitment to a mental and spiritual transformation. You can live a life of No Doubt, Just Blessings!
 

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I'm going through a bad experience of failure and I want to improve myself. I'm grad for your comment and ideas from others in this thread that I thinks will help me to beat by past experience. It's up to me. Thanks and keep it up.
You may only be using this as a phrase ("to beat my past experience") however, be careful that to not spend so much time thinking that you have to beat the past. The past has already happened. It sounds like it's time to deal with your present so that you can step into your future. Use that experience to mold yourself into something or someone. You can do it!
 
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Goal Setting is Most Important Part of Personality Development

One of the most fundamental yet vital personal development activities is goal setting. You may be surprised at how big a difference goals can make in your endeavors. Let me discuss this topic with you and hopefully you will see why that is so.

Now the first thing I want to harp on is that goals provide you with a sense of direction. Without goals, you could end up lost in your journey. In fact, without goals, your journey could be really pointless. Let me give you an illustration. Think of two opposing soccer teams who are playing soccer on a field without goal posts. What would the motive of the game be if there are no goal posts? Now when you put two sets of goal posts on to the field, you give each of the teams a purpose, which is to score as many goals as they can to win the game. Basically, what I am saying is this. If you have no goals, you cannot be a winner, and therefore, that makes you a loser. Doing other personal development activities would hence be futile without an end destination.

Besides giving you an end destination, goals can also help guide you along the way. Let me give you another illustration. Let's say you went trekking, and you lost your way. You know where you want to go, but you need a compass to bring you to your final destination. What can we learn from this illustration? It is important to have a long term goal, but it is also just as important to have short term goals, or what I like to call milestones. If you break down your long term goal into milestones, achieving that long term goal will not seem like such a daunting task, and it will help you with your other personal development activities as well.

Besides having a long term goal and breaking that up into smaller milestones, I also suggest that you write your goals down and put them in a place where you will always be able to see them. When you write your goals down, you show that you are committed to attaining them, and whenever you find that you're lost, you can always look back at them to get some motivation. Besides, committing to them to memory isn't very effective because as humans, we do forget.

I hope you have gained a better understanding about goal setting and I hope you will use it in tandem with your other personal development activities.
 

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Personal Development to me is becoming a more positive, efficient, enthusiastic individual who looks to give and share in as many avenues of life as much as he/she would like to receive.

Yes it takes a specific goal or desire to stimulate the decision to change and journey down the personal development path but once we start down the journey to our success we understand that it entails a balanced life, a well lived life one that is lived to bring value to others as much as to ourselves.
 

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My Father always said "the biggest room in our house is the room for improvement" I believe personal development as you put it is attaining your ideal life. Wether that be beach front mansion in kauai. Home in the mountains with all 20 of your children or traveling the world with the love of your life. Personal development to me is getting all you want in life through infinite intelligence. Or just finding out what you really want in life.
 

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I see Personal Development as a means to tap into those qualities we already have to achieve what we want in life but it does not mean you do it by yourself. I think what is just as important is creating an environment where friends, family, colleagues, communities think, live and grow in a shared, inspired conversation. This is where the fun is and where your imagination can run wild.
 

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Indeed. We all have areas we could improve upon. But I think, personally, that happiness is the ultimate pursuit of personal-development, maybe that's just my Buddhist beliefs shining through, but for me, everything else ties in with it. And that's the beauty of personal development, we all have things to strive for that will make us happier, whether it be improved health, better relationships, or more prosperity and success.
To answer the closing question. I haven't always been this way. I was pretty reckless, care-free, and just bouncing through life. That changed as I approached my thirties. Not sure why, but I just knew there was a better version of me to be fulfilled, so I set out to fulfill it. In my opinion, personal development is a journey - a journey that doesn't stop, so I'm always striving to better myself, as I believe we all are.
I am completely in accord with you. There are steps back and leaps forward. In my experience,I noted there are moments of accumulation of information and practice and then, sometimes unexpectedly, there's a qualitative leap.
 
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A valid discussion! As many of us here about Personal Development and strive for personal development yet we tend to get caught up in the popular fad instead of getting emotionally involved in something worthwhile!

Personal development to me is equipping yourself in the best most effective way possible to attain your specific success. The majority of us are progressing along a journey to help others attain their success or strive for something that we think will bring us success, yet this has been defined by someone else!

Making the specific decision, taking action, and strengthening our internal thoughts, faith and resolve is the start of personal development!
 

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A favorite author/speaker of mine named Brian Tracy said it well: "No one lives long enough to learn everything they need to learn starting from scratch. To be successful, we absolutely, positively have to find people who have already paid the price to learn the things that we need to learn to achieve our goals".
Indeed, it's wise to learn from people who have paid the price to learn what we want to learn!
 

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I think for me personal development is directly related to personal success. Whether it is financial success, spiritual success, career success, relationship success or wellness success, they all must be work on.
I believe when the person is constantly self developing the person is on the path to bigger and better things. Personally, I strive for overall success and I think the best way to do it is knowledge, grit and guts.
The more I self develop, the more I look for more improvements, more knowledge and more success. I want to achieve success and then use it to help others succeed!
 

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Personal development is continuous review of our habits and routines; being able to identify whether or not they are positive or negative, contributing to our growth or causing us to regress, improving the habits we have or replacing the negative habits with positive habits and implementing these positive habits everyday with persitience and faith.

So personal development to me is taking action, each day, on a gol or task that will advance me as a person as well as my success!
 

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For me personal development help we to improve life of all days. Each day we should do a challenge to improve our self-esteem.
So Every day we will overcome our fears and we will have always more strength and grit.