What happens when you become aware of a belief, that might be holding you back?

Are put downs necessary for us to change who we are or is there a different way to learn


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Ari

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I became aware that put-downs can have a major effect in holding you back in your life, especially if it was done by an authoritative figure or someone you really looked up to. So what would you say to that person today if you were to be dealt, that put down today? I had one which was " You will not amount to much!" My question now, would be, how do you know this and when did you become a prophet? I choose to believe I can amount to what I was born to do with my Creators help.
Would love to know if you have had put downs and what methods did you use to grow through them?
 

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I might say that I don't agree. Next, I would try to prove the naysayer wrong.
Thanks for your comment. Would you prove it via actions, that show differently, or would you prove to them from examples of other situations in your life that there as well you overcame their perceived limitation?
 

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I became aware that put-downs can have a major effect in holding you back in your life
This is an area where forgiveness can help. Forgiveness as an internal thing that helps you avoid things like anger, bitterness or anything that holds you back.
 

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It is helpful to decided if what they say is true for me? If I have the urge to argue, defend or even entertain it in any way there may actually be some truth.
I use the extreme as a measurement, if someone said hey Jason, you have a orange and purple ear, It would be comical because no way do I have an orange and purple ear.
If what they say as a put down is not true it should be just as ridiculous compared to what I truly believe.

Therefore these putdowns are opportunities to test our believes, sometimes we don't believe as much as we think we do and need to grow our faith above put downs.

As far as response, I have transformed situations instantly by just saying one of two statements I learned. "may you be blessed" or "thank you for helping me." If anyone one is put down and wants to see a magical life transformation in front of their eyes try one of those.
 

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Things in life never stop changing and they often evolve in a fast pace. While people are entitled to make their opinions, none of them should stop us from doing what we'd like or from believing on things we believe are right. I personally know a specialist who can better explain this important life matter and he is no less than naturopathy expert Dr. Sundardas. Take time to visit his web site on how you can increase your chances of being successful in life.
 

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This is an area where forgiveness can help. Forgiveness as an internal thing that helps you avoid things like anger, bitterness or anything that holds you back.
Cynthia thanks for your contribution. I do agree that forgiveness is essential, do you find this is enough to remove that limited belief from yourself?
 

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It is helpful to decided if what they say is true for me? If I have the urge to argue, defend or even entertain it in any way there may actually be some truth.
I use the extreme as a measurement, if someone said hey Jason, you have a orange and purple ear, It would be comical because no way do I have an orange and purple ear.
If what they say as a put down is not true it should be just as ridiculous compared to what I truly believe.

Therefore these putdowns are opportunities to test our believes, sometimes we don't believe as much as we think we do and need to grow our faith above put downs.

As far as response, I have transformed situations instantly by just saying one of two statements I learned. "may you be blessed" or "thank you for helping me." If anyone one is put down and wants to see a magical life transformation in front of their eyes try one of those.
thanks for the contribution, I look forward to experimenting using your statements.
 

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Wow, this is actually a fundamental question Ari.
Once you became aware of your thoughts and beliefs, there is no turning back.
It is a good thing though, it is called self-growth.

There are actually several ways to change your beliefs.
Before I tell you what I personally use, I want to quote someone first.
"What other people think of me, is none of my business." - Dr. Wayne Dyer

We can never point at someone else for having a belief, even if it feels justified.
It is our belief and therefor it is our own responsibility.
It only feels bad, because we attach those feelings to the memory or belief.
We need to disconnect or release those feelings/energy.
An amazingly good technique I use is EFT (emotional freedom technique) or tapping.
Check out YouTube, there are a lot of instruction videos.

If you attend to the Avatar Course, you will learn different techniques, that are even easier to do.
Start with a Resurfacing® weekend and continue with the other parts.
If you want I can help you connect to a Licensed Master in your own neighborhood.
If you are in The Netherlands I can personally assist you with it.

Here are some other techniques:
- Using affirmations (long process)
- Psych-K
- Meditation
- Self-hypnosis
- Sedona method
- Ho'oponopono (secret Hawaiian release technique)

Good luck!
 

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Cynthia thanks for your contribution. I do agree that forgiveness is essential, do you find this is enough to remove that limited belief from yourself?
Forgiveness allows you to avoid the anger and bitterness that otherwise seems to grow in people and limit their lives.
 
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Ari

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Wow, this is actually a fundamental question Ari.
Once you became aware of your thoughts and beliefs, there is no turning back.
It is a good thing though, it is called self-growth.

There are actually several ways to change your beliefs.
Before I tell you what I personally use, I want to quote someone first.
"What other people think of me, is none of my business." - Dr. Wayne Dyer

We can never point at someone else for having a belief, even if it feels justified.
It is our belief and therefor it is our own responsibility.
It only feels bad, because we attach those feelings to the memory or belief.
We need to disconnect or release those feelings/energy.
An amazingly good technique I use is EFT (emotional freedom technique) or tapping.
Check out YouTube, there are a lot of instruction videos.

If you attend to the Avatar Course, you will learn different techniques, that are even easier to do.
Start with a Resurfacing® weekend and continue with the other parts.
If you want I can help you connect to a Licensed Master in your own neighborhood.
If you are in The Netherlands I can personally assist you with it.

Here are some other techniques:
- Using affirmations (long process)
- Psych-K
- Meditation
- Self-hypnosis
- Sedona method
- Ho'oponopono (secret Hawaiian release technique)

Good luck!
 

Ari

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Wow, this is actually a fundamental question Ari.
Once you became aware of your thoughts and beliefs, there is no turning back.
It is a good thing though, it is called self-growth.

There are actually several ways to change your beliefs.
Before I tell you what I personally use, I want to quote someone first.
"What other people think of me, is none of my business." - Dr. Wayne Dyer

We can never point at someone else for having a belief, even if it feels justified.
It is our belief and therefor it is our own responsibility.
It only feels bad, because we attach those feelings to the memory or belief.
We need to disconnect or release those feelings/energy.
An amazingly good technique I use is EFT (emotional freedom technique) or tapping.
Check out YouTube, there are a lot of instruction videos.

If you attend to the Avatar Course, you will learn different techniques, that are even easier to do.
Start with a Resurfacing® weekend and continue with the other parts.
If you want I can help you connect to a Licensed Master in your own neighborhood.
If you are in The Netherlands I can personally assist you with it.

Here are some other techniques:
- Using affirmations (long process)
- Psych-K
- Meditation
- Self-hypnosis
- Sedona method
- Ho'oponopono (secret Hawaiian release technique)

Good luck!
Thank you for your contribution.I love your quote from Dr Wayne Dryer , its a great way to change the way that I feel from an emotional viewpoint and victim state, to empower my sense of responsibility for my belief system, I have used NLP for the emotional content which I studied recently, however it was interesting to me, that a belief system can be embedded inside oneself and sometimes, one is not aware of its effect on one's life until one is made aware of it. This happened to me through this bereavement course, where we had the chance, to think of putdowns in our lives in a focused session and that trigger made me conscious of this underlying blockage.
 

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Forgiveness allows you to avoid the anger and bitterness that otherwise seems to grow in people and limit their lives.
Dear Cynthia thanks again for your contribution. Is the forgiveness that you are suggesting, for oneself, or for the others you have interacted with, or both?
 

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I would say or think: that's you opinion, consider if it was justified, (and therefore change my behaviour). and get on with my day. It can be most hurtful if it is someone important in your life.
 

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I became aware that put-downs can have a major effect in holding you back in your life, especially if it was done by an authoritative figure or someone you really looked up to. So what would you say to that person today if you were to be dealt, that put down today? I had one which was " You will not amount to much!" My question now, would be, how do you know this and when did you become a prophet? I choose to believe I can amount to what I was born to do with my Creators help.
Would love to know if you have had put downs and what methods did you use to grow through them?
Having just done the survey it reminds me of teaching children or animals - the best way is with rewards, with children look for something good to reward rather than criticise. Unreasonable criticism hurts every one and makes you sour!
 

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Dear Cynthia thanks again for your contribution. Is the forgiveness that you are suggesting, for oneself, or for the others you have interacted with, or both?
Sometimes the other person, sometimes yourself to. Depends on what you need:)