TERRIBLE BREAK UP Please help

J E Roberson

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What is the hardest part for you moving on after getting out of a relationship?
Low energy, returning back? Please help.
 

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It's been a really long time for me but it was hard for my self esteem, feeling rejected as well as shocked and lonely. Time healed it though, looking back later I realized it was for the best to have it sooner than later, and I could move on to something better (and did). I'm currently reading a Zen book called Opening the Hand of Thought which I think is helpful for situations like this, learning to be at peace with life as it is in the present.
 

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The hardest part for me was holding onto the tiny possibility that we could get back together.
 

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What is the hardest part for you moving on after getting out of a relationship?
Low energy, returning back? Please help.
Well! I think one should give it a try before breakup. Both the parties must sit together & talk it out & try to resolve the problem. If the problem cannot be resolved then they should take this step of breaking up.
For few days it is really difficult to cope up after the breakup. One should try to focus on other things which keeps them engaged. Slowly & gradually the pain will subside.
 

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J.E. I've been in a complicated situation/breakup of a mairrage since July of this year. I've been through every emotion there is in this 8month period...
 

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Well! I think one should give it a try before breakup. Both the parties must sit together & talk it out & try to resolve the problem. If the problem cannot be resolved then they should take this step of breaking up.
For few days it is really difficult to cope up after the breakup. One should try to focus on other things which keeps them engaged. Slowly & gradually the pain will subside.
If 2 people can sit down and do this, (sit and talk about problems) I don't believe there would be a problem in the firstplace. Almost near Impossible ton get my wife to do this. :)
 

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Hey, One thing that really helped me during my last painful breakup was this affirmation where I affirmed that both me and her could be happy without each other.

I remember repeating over and over and over particularly during a long car ride very soon after we split.

The emotions were overwhelming but this really helped me manage that.
 

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Hey, One thing that really helped me during my last painful breakup was this affirmation where I affirmed that both me and her could be happy without each other.

I remember repeating over and over and over particularly during a long car ride very soon after we split.

The emotions were overwhelming but this really helped me manage that.
Happy for you. Positive affirmations always work. Keep it up.
 

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Time heal all wounds. Meanwhile I agree with Pratima, positive affirmations work!
 

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Time will heal sure, but if you want to really grow and become whole again you need to dedicate yourself to becoming a better person. What is better? That's for you to decide. Take care of yourself. Do all the things that you could not do because your time was occupied with a relationship. Nurture your body, nurture your mind. Work out, eat healthy, go to yoga, see friends, read (READ A LOT), and when you are ready, go meet new people. The fact that you may be so low right now actually makes doing all these things somewhat easier. Your break up is a fact that nothing can change. However, your future is limitless and it is in your hands!
 

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Breaking up with someone you truly love is indeed a terrible situation to be in. It's important to note though that life doesn't stop there as this could even be a start of a better future. We only live once, so it's important that you spend all your energy to people who value your true being the same way you care for yourself. If you're still struggling to get over a previous relationship, we can lend a hand. Take time to visit our web sites so you'll know how we can definitely be of help.
 

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What is the hardest part for you moving on after getting out of a relationship?
Low energy, returning back? Please help.
Remember that one door is closed, there are more door is opened and waiting for you. Everything happened for a reason.
Life is still go on without someone. At the end of the darkness is the beginning of bright light.
Stay strong! Maybe god wanna bring a better person that suit you into your life :) .
 

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I never thought this conversation could hold such a wealth of knowledge, I took a lot of the advice in here on my recovery path. While crawling from the ashes of pain I got in the best shape of my recent life (excluding college sports) Wrote a book! and collaborated with some of the worlds top coaches to create the most effective break recovery course in the world! I thank you all for your input and support if you struggle like I did with the heavy emotions, feelings of being stuck or the lack of clarity and energy to move forward this is what you seek. http//www.breakuptoabundance.com
 

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What is the hardest part for you moving on after getting out of a relationship?
Low energy, returning back? Please help.

Perhaps regret that you didn't try harder or give it another chance - if you have decided that's definitely over, make a decision to move on, believe you can handle it and make an effort to make new friends.

Good luck and best wishes
 

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Having a good friend, someone to confide in and spend time with can help time move you on. Just be prepared to ask that person the same questions over and over again, why did this happen? Why wont she/he take me back? How can I move on from this? How do I stop the pain? Break ups are tough:(