Positive Thinking – Looking for the Positives

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The secret to feeling joy, appreciation and gratitude every day is by learning how to control your thoughts to see the positives in whatever situation you are facing. An additional bonus to being and feeling positive is that you’ll also attract positive people, events and circumstances to flow into your life’s experience. I’ll show you the techniques I’ve used which changed my life from feeling frustration, anger and negativity which in turn caused poor health and a lack of abundance, to living joyously everyday and receiving everything I ever dreamed of.

How this has worked for me
But first I’ll touch on what made me so negative to begin with…

Fleeing your country with nothing but the clothes on your back, you could imagine how tough it would have been for my young parents who had two small children to feed and shelter. After spending 3 years in a Thailand Refugee camp, we made it to Australia with very little money and not knowing how to speak the foreign language. Life was a struggle trying to make ends meet, let alone have time to play with the children. So I grew up angry, depressed, shy and scared of the world around me.

I remember this moment ever so clearly when my life turned from negative to positive… I was lying in bed with tears rolling down my face, beating myself up with the usual questions running through my mind such as “why don’t my parents love me”, “why are we so poor”, “why aren’t I smart enough”. Then I realised “Hey, you’re lucky to even be alive!”. Thinking back to my two near death experiences. First when I was 9 months old I almost died from a severe case of diarrhea which lasted for weeks. It was so severe that my parents, family and friends all gathered around saying their good byes. I even had a little coffin made for me as I was all skin and bone, not able to keep anything down. Luckily my step-father knew someone who worked at the hospital so he was able to get me some medication which put a stop to me going through at least 10 nappies a day. Second near miss was when I was 6 yrs old, playing outside on the street with the neighbor’s kid. A tall man stops his car next to us and asks for help to reach in the back of his van as he was too big. We both started to climb in the car but stopped when we heard my friends mum scream for us to get out of the car! Another few seconds and we both would have been statistics.

When I woke up the next day realising how lucky I was to be alive, the world around me seemed different. When I stepped outside the grass was vibrant and lite up a bright green, the trees were full of varying colours, I noticed birds chirping and the sun lighting up my vast surroundings. I had so much more energy and just felt great to be alive. This was when I came to the conclusion that …Life is what you think it.


Example of when I apply Positive thinking
The most important thing for me is to feel good every moment of every day. It is up to us to choose the thoughts which make us either feel down and depressed or feel good, vibrant, enthusiastic and full of energy. If a situation arises and I notice myself rehearsing a negative thought, I stop myself and have a good think about the situation and ask “what is great about this situation or what could be great about it”. Imagine the situation working out the way you want it to play out in the future. So now you have that image, next time that same negative thought arises for that situation, you’ll know exactly which thought to reach for. It does take practice, but once you get the hang of consciously directing your thoughts to the positive aspects, the World will open up and you’ll see everything around it for all its beauty.
 

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The secret to feeling joy, appreciation and gratitude every day is by learning how to control your thoughts to see the positives in whatever situation you are facing. An additional bonus to being and feeling positive is that you’ll also attract positive people, events and circumstances to flow into your life’s experience. I’ll show you the techniques I’ve used which changed my life from feeling frustration, anger and negativity which in turn caused poor health and a lack of abundance, to living joyously everyday and receiving everything I ever dreamed of.

How this has worked for me
But first I’ll touch on what made me so negative to begin with…

Fleeing your country with nothing but the clothes on your back, you could imagine how tough it would have been for my young parents who had two small children to feed and shelter. After spending 3 years in a Thailand Refugee camp, we made it to Australia with very little money and not knowing how to speak the foreign language. Life was a struggle trying to make ends meet, let alone have time to play with the children. So I grew up angry, depressed, shy and scared of the world around me.

I remember this moment ever so clearly when my life turned from negative to positive… I was lying in bed with tears rolling down my face, beating myself up with the usual questions running through my mind such as “why don’t my parents love me”, “why are we so poor”, “why aren’t I smart enough”. Then I realised “Hey, you’re lucky to even be alive!”. Thinking back to my two near death experiences. First when I was 9 months old I almost died from a severe case of diarrhea which lasted for weeks. It was so severe that my parents, family and friends all gathered around saying their good byes. I even had a little coffin made for me as I was all skin and bone, not able to keep anything down. Luckily my step-father knew someone who worked at the hospital so he was able to get me some medication which put a stop to me going through at least 10 nappies a day. Second near miss was when I was 6 yrs old, playing outside on the street with the neighbor’s kid. A tall man stops his car next to us and asks for help to reach in the back of his van as he was too big. We both started to climb in the car but stopped when we heard my friends mum scream for us to get out of the car! Another few seconds and we both would have been statistics.

When I woke up the next day realising how lucky I was to be alive, the world around me seemed different. When I stepped outside the grass was vibrant and lite up a bright green, the trees were full of varying colours, I noticed birds chirping and the sun lighting up my vast surroundings. I had so much more energy and just felt great to be alive. This was when I came to the conclusion that …Life is what you think it.


Example of when I apply Positive thinking
The most important thing for me is to feel good every moment of every day. It is up to us to choose the thoughts which make us either feel down and depressed or feel good, vibrant, enthusiastic and full of energy. If a situation arises and I notice myself rehearsing a negative thought, I stop myself and have a good think about the situation and ask “what is great about this situation or what could be great about it”. Imagine the situation working out the way you want it to play out in the future. So now you have that image, next time that same negative thought arises for that situation, you’ll know exactly which thought to reach for. It does take practice, but once you get the hang of consciously directing your thoughts to the positive aspects, the World will open up and you’ll see everything around it for all its beauty.
Wow, that's quite a personal story you reveal there.
Congratulations on staying positive throughout those traumatic times when many would have given into despair.
'Life is what you think it', I couldn't agree more. Whilst I had my fair share of troubles in my younger years which certainly stayed with me well into my adult life, just like you I decided to find the things in life I could be grateful for. There is a quote by David James Lees that I feel is well worth remembering, "Be mindful of your self talk. It's a conversation with the universe."

The words and conversations I used to have in my mind were always of lack and sadness and how much I wanted to change my life. I thought by telling myself this over and over that I was trying to change my outer world. It wasn't until I learned that these thoughts and self talk patterns were the very things that were keeping me stuck in a cycle of misery, and the only way to change my outside circumstances was to change my inner dialogue.

Achieving a positive mindset can be a complicated and frustrating journey at times. I believe it is so much more than just trying to stay positive when things get tough. It is a way of life that involves slow and steady changes in all areas of your life. Positive thinking is the result of positive habits!

Mark Brewer
 
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Hello Mark,

I guess for me, turning my thoughts around from always thinking Negative to Positive was a quick shift as my perspective on life had changed in an instant. Feeling grateful for simply being alive was enough for me to release all my fears and worries of the World, and actually stop me in my tracks to start realising simply how beautiful life is for us all to enjoy. As a result, my 'conversations with the Universe' brought me unexpected richness in all aspects of life from then onwards. Coincidence? I think not :)

I have discovered a few life secrets along the way and am trying to spread the word to help others to live a fulfilling life that they desire. I've created a website for people to read my stories and also for others who are successful to share their discoveries too. As you are a positive minded person, I bet you too are very successful and have created your own reality to whatever your heart desires. Would be great if you could share some of your discoveries on my website (which is amateurish as I'm not very tech savvy) so that we can create a shift in human evolution which enables all to learn, grow and live joyously to fulfill their hearts desires.

Thanks,
Nha
 

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Great post Mark, I think the focus on positive thinking is one of many paths to positive feelings. I have found positive thinking isn't a tool that works for all humans. The truth lies in what you stated over and over in your post "feeling positive".

Through numerous encounters I have found not all humans can get to positive feelings with the thought path. Looks like it works well for you. I have a few other post talking about how positive thinking doesn't work, all those who oppose that opinion in one or two sentences usually without awareness start to exchange the word thinking for feeling.

I don't think anyone can argue the results of cultivating positive feelings however positive thinking seems to be getting all the publicity and credit for its friend positive emotion or feelings.

Here is my question based on your strategy to implement positiveness.
“what is great about this situation or what could be great about it”. Imagine the situation working out the way you want it to play out in the future. So now you have that image, next time that same negative thought arises for that situation, you’ll know exactly which thought to reach for.
Does answering the questions or the visualization create your shift or do they have to work together?
 
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Hello Mark,

I guess for me, turning my thoughts around from always thinking Negative to Positive was a quick shift as my perspective on life had changed in an instant. Feeling grateful for simply being alive was enough for me to release all my fears and worries of the World, and actually stop me in my tracks to start realising simply how beautiful life is for us all to enjoy. As a result, my 'conversations with the Universe' brought me unexpected richness in all aspects of life from then onwards. Coincidence? I think not :)

I have discovered a few life secrets along the way and am trying to spread the word to help others to live a fulfilling life that they desire. I've created a website for people to read my stories and also for others who are successful to share their discoveries too. As you are a positive minded person, I bet you too are very successful and have created your own reality to whatever your heart desires. Would be great if you could share some of your discoveries on my website (which is amateurish as I'm not very tech savvy) so that we can create a shift in human evolution which enables all to learn, grow and live joyously to fulfill their hearts desires.

Thanks,
Nha
Hi Nha,
I think what you are doing with your website is admirable. There are plenty of people who need inspiration in their lives. The more we all do to help and support each other the better. It can get very lonely and answers can be hard to come by. Forums like this one and websites like yours are a great place to start. Once people begin to become more aware and accepting of their problems it is often the start of the way back to happier times. I shall be dropping by your website frequently!
All the best,
Mark.
 
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Great post Mark, I think the focus on positive thinking is one of many paths to positive feelings. I have found positive thinking isn't a tool that works for all humans. The truth lies in what you stated over and over in your post "feeling positive".

Through numerous encounters I have found not all humans can get to positive feelings with the thought path. Looks like it works well for you. I have a few other post talking about how positive thinking doesn't work, all those who oppose that opinion in one or two sentences usually without awareness start to exchange the word thinking for feeling.

I don't think anyone can argue the results of cultivating positive feelings however positive thinking seems to be getting all the publicity and credit for its friend positive emotion or feelings.

Here is my question based on your strategy to implement positiveness.


Does answering the questions or the visualization create your shift or do they have to work together?
Hi,
I absolutely agree, positive FEELINGS are what matters. Trying to think positively without any real emotion behind those thoughts aren't going to get you very far. We are all made of energy, the more positive energy we put out the more we tend to attract positive situations. I have no doubt at all that to become a positive person you have to work on all areas of your life. That includes mind, body and spirit. Positive mindset, eating healthily and meditation or yoga etc. Neuro science has proven beyond doubt that we all have the ability to re-wire our minds through repetition and create new neural pathways, no matter what our age.

The answers lie in making these changes a daily habit. Over time the shift in our mindset starts to develop and become just a part of who we are. It took me long time to fully get this. I would try being positive for a few days but would then slip back into my old thought patterns and behaviors. In NLP they use a method known as pattern interrupt. It is vital, in my opinion, to have something to use that can pull you out of negative thinking as soon as it surfaces. A mental image of something or someone you love. Or a question that forces you to think of something that makes you feel good.

In answer to your question, for me personally, visualization creates an instant shift. I have been using it daily for the last of couple of years. No matter how bad my day may have gone, once I'm immersed in my 'perfect world' visualization I feel my energy rising and I feel gratitude for what I'm certain will manifest in its own good time.

Thank you.
Mark. http://www.shiftingtopositive.com
 
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I enjoyed reading your very moving story, and it sounds like you've been through a lot.

I also used the power of thought with visualisation after suffering a stroke last year. I imagined myself driving, and doing daily household chores, and although my left hand still isn't working as it should, I am driving a manual car and achieved a great recovery. Holding onto negative thoughts and beliefs will only draw them closer.