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Hello, everybody. My name is Sergio Ramos. I am quite new to these forums and have only begun the dive into the sea of self-development. A short and quick background to why I am here. I'm 35 years old and I have been battling PTSD ever since witnessing the horrifying murder of my father at the age of 6, and if you can believe it, I have never learned what self-development was and what it was meant for until my current boss intoduced me to Earl Nightengale's recording back in November of 2017.

After doing the 30-day challenge, I found myself wanting to persue this new subject and learn about everything that I have been missing throughout my entire life. That which I understand is usually tought by either a father, a coach, or picked-up by a non-preoccupied and fully aware child as he is able to see the world around him with a free mind.

I do want to thank everybody here who is reading this for their patience and understanding as I attempt to make sense of that which I know nothing about, and will most likely fumble as I struggle to understand what it means to be a personally developed individual.

For starters I would like to ask a question to whomever has read my post up until now, but I have a problem. I don't know what to ask or if I should even ask anything at all. See, I have a small problem which I think I should start with if any of you are willing to help me by letting me bounce some ideas around.

"I have very disorganized thoughts and have difficulty focusing and I wonder if anybody has such a rudimentary understanding on these points that they could give me a small piece of advice that I can use as a basis as I attempt to learn how to organize my thoughts and/or keep focused on my subject as I attempt to build my thoughts around them."

That single run-on sentence is probably my biggest problem right now. As I normally attempt to communicate, I always begin by stringing out a long series of words that I can't seem to stop myself to take the time and better organize into more functional sentences. Further, if the previous sentence didn't make good sense, it's just another example of how my thoughts are chaotic and are in need of help becoming more organized.

Does anybody have any advice on how to start "developing" myself with better organized thoughts? Thank you, everyone. I'm sorry if this is a bit much to ask for on an introductory post.
 

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Hello Sergio, I wish you a future brighter then ever wherever you choose to go.

I've suffered with depression for many years, it has been a difficult and overwhelming journey at times. My thoughts often become jumbled when I am stressed, I either say nothing at all or I talk 100 miles an hour.

Over the years I have managed to deal with a lot of the demons in my past, and realise that my journey had me meeting some incredible healers.

One I would highly recommend is Marisa Peer. She is a healer who specialises in dealing with the REAL causes of issues rather then the SYMPTOMS.
There is a free video of her speaking here. It inspired me and helped me push past the worst of my depression to light a new life. I hope this video helps you as well.

As you say you have been through trauma you may need a more personal touch. This is her website if you want to study with her.

https://www.iamenough.com/

It is not an affiliate link, I am actually studying one of her courses as well. I believe she is an amazing woman with the ability to help save the world.

I truly hope this helps you Sergio, it lights up my day to know I have helped another.

May the light shine on your path,
Sarah :)
 
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Thank you very much for your insight, Sarah. I really do appreciate you giving me that video link. I was able to get through almost all of the video before my headset died around 1AM so I got quite the experence from it. It helped me remember a lot that had happened to me before I lost my father. It also helped me understand that rejection isn't what is holding me back. I am going to try some of her other videos in hopes I'll come across the answer somewhere along the lines. I will most definitely keep you updated on how it's working for me. Again, thank you for what you've done for me.

It did also help me get in touch with my inner child. Something I've never taken the time to even attempt.
 

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I am so glad to hear it helped you. Feel free to PM with your results, I am looking forward to it.

Here is her website Contact Us page https://www.marisapeer.com/contact/
You could ask if they have any sessions for dealing with deep trauma, I hope they do.

With the next video you watch fingers crossed it goes all the way through. I've heard with her programs its more powerful to listen to it several times in a row, hope that helps. "Your mind learns by repetition. And it takes the mind a minimum of 10 days and a maximum of 21 days to completely let go of an old belief, and to lock onto a new one"

I am studying her course Uncomprised Life, she is an amazing woman. I plan to learn from her in the future, it would be lovely to help people the way she does.
She has several free videos available on YouTube, I have heard this is also a great one

All the best Sergio
 
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"I have very disorganized thoughts and have difficulty focusing and I wonder if anybody has such a rudimentary understanding on these points that they could give me a small piece of advice that I can use as a basis as I attempt to learn how to organize my thoughts and/or keep focused on my subject as I attempt to build my thoughts around them."
Hi Sergio,

I am a biologist not a psychologist. However, you could say that one of my current hobbies is to listen to youtube videos which related to psychological matters and I learned so much from those videos. So, what I am going to tell you in the following lines is not a professional nor a scientific opinion but it is just my own personal view of your matter after reading about it in your post based on what I learned from those youtube videos.


After reading your post, I first want to congratulate you on that you have a clear talent in describing what you feel and I believe you began your first steps towards self-healing and self-development as you put your hands on what exactly may bother you. The fact that you discovered what may bother you means you have a good mind and you are an intelligent person, so the first thing I want to advice you with is to be careful in order not to fall in the trap of the destructive self-criticism. Be patient, supportive, kind and merciful with yourself and always remind yourself that you deserve goodness.


I think your so-called "dis-organized thaoghts" are just like a fight which is occurring continuously inside your head among thoughts. That fight was actually running deep and unconscionably over and over in your heart and in your head at emotional level due to the sad incident you unfortunately exposed to when you were young and also due to the lack of guidance which is supposed to be given by the parents as care takers.


That all lead to the continuous presence of a struggle running deep inside you which means you lost your inner peace and that state of losing peace in turn is expressing itself in the form of those your so-called “dis-organized thoughts”. I think what you need to do is mainly three things which are;

1- Self love as you need to give yourself all the love you were deprived of due to your life circumstances. You need to nurture yourself with love and care as if you are caring with a little kid or even a little enfant.


2- Mindfulness as your so-called “dis-organized thoughts” means jumping from idea to idea without focusing which may be because your mind and your heart are lost between the past and the future and they are not found in the present. From what I heard in youtube videos on that subject, I understand that mindfulness is a state of mind and heart where they are only focusing on the present moment without jumping back to the past or jumping forward to the future.


3- Meditation and connecting yourself to Allah "God" as He is the peace and so He is the only one who can give you the peace you required.


I would sincerely advise you to search youtube for videos mainly (and as a start for self-healing and for self-development) on those three subjects (self love, mindfulness and meditation and faith) .


Sorry for talking so much. If you find what I wrote above is not interesting to you, leave it and try to watch and listen to the following youtube videos. I myself prefer watching such youtube videos or listening to them more than reading about their content.








https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vK_l24xApLo

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=btiL0qHtnRw

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ynrcF44LEgA

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=638JVjPEH3s

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=11iF-x9QRy8

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FNIroh6uivM

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_Udlctgpi-U

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4tGGbytiRf8

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FmmS8saDP7I

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uGcfzHf7KNY

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wm2KxtJn4hA

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BHjx-w0pk4o

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=czZNsI8Uvhc

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LloFz5fl0Wg


Those youtube videos mentioned above teaches me a lot in my life and I am grateful to whoever made them and to whoever published them on youtube. I hope those videos help you too.

Finally, I would like to say to you be grateful always for every little thing Allah “God” gave to you and thank Him for that and you will be amazed of how many good things will happen in your life after doing that.

Enjoy your journey of self-development and self-healing.

I hope that helps you.

With My Best Wishes Of A Happy Life
 
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Sorry for talking so much. If you find what I wrote above is not interesting to you, leave it and try to watch and listen to the following youtube videos. I myself prefer watching such youtube videos or listening to them more than reading about their content.
No apologies necessary. I appreciate everything you said to me. Because of what happened to me I rejected Allah and religion ever since, only Allah has spoken to me over time in his own ways and I have learned to accept him and recently began putting my trust more in him than I do myself. Also, because I continued to reject religion, I can use both "God" and "Allah" interchangeably as much as I can use "Dios" and "Kami" or any other title I'm able to remember. You don't have to worry about including both names with me. They all mean the same to me for all are only titles of the creator and not his name.

I have been suspecting a lot of what you mentioned to be my case. "Self love" is a new concept to me. I've always accepted myself and my life for who I am and what it is. So I never really gave myself much consideration. But now that I have a child of my own, I am learning how I need to take care of myself in order to take care of my family. Even though I feel selfish doing so, I can't take care of my family if I don't make certain that I am happy enough to take care of myself. You have put what I have suspected in plain text for me to reflect with. I am grateful for that. I will make that a focus now that I realize I've never loved myself because I've never truly felt loved while I was growing up. Perhaps growing up poor without seeing much "appreciation" from my mother because she had to work to support me and 3 other children is the cause of why I never felt loved. Perhaps growing up and seeing all the children around me being better off in life with luxuries I never had is the reason why I never felt loved. Perhaps my feelings of love and hope were destroyed or "frozen" the moment I experienced what I did and was never able to nourish myself the way most others have. I will meditate on this tonight perhaps with one of the videos you shared.

Regarding "mindfulness", I don't quite understand what you mean in line. Could you elaborate some more? I'm interested. I read the words you said, I understood each word individually, but I don't understand the entirety of that statement. Perhaps that is one of the capabilities I should start working on. Only thing is, I fear if I continue to read about "mindfulness" I still wont understand it. Would you mind discussing the subject with me?
 

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But now that I have a child of my own, I am learning how I need to take care of myself in order to take care of my family. Even though I feel selfish doing so, I can't take care of my family if I don't make certain that I am happy enough to take care of myself.

Hi Sergio,

I am glad you find what I wrote about your case helpful. I told you, you seem to be an intelligent person and after reading your reply, I guess I am right. Well, I also, believe that Allah is God and God is Allah who is the creator of the whole universe. You know what ... I really did not mean to force the issue of religion on you. I just believe faith is really helpful and is a good companion in life events especially in those such as the one you faced and I could not hide that as a sincere advice, so I brought it up.



You know what also, faith increases sometimes and decrease sometimes. We all feel away from God or close to Him from time to time. I just believe that it is very critical to the human-being to be connected to God as He is the highest power that take care of them just like a child is connected to their mother and feels peace and safety due to it. Sometimes, we face, in this life, what is unbearable such as what you faced. A human with its limited emotional power, can not overcome that alone. It is greater than their ability to overcome and that is why human needs God to surrender to Him such matters and to leave those matters in His merciful hands. I believe, surrendering hard matters to the hands of Allah, is relieving a huge burden. It is just letting go what a human can not manage to whom can manage. In the same time, as the wise saying I once read "Put your trust in God, put keep your powder dry", a person should take reasons into consideration. That is why having self-love and mindfulness are necessary to do as they are representing the part of the saying (keep your powder dry) and God helps those who help themselves.



You are right, Sergio, you can not take care of your family if you are not happy and if you are not taking care of yourself. Never feel selfish of taking care of yourself. To me, selfishness, is not even some kind of self-love, instead it is disregarding the interests of others and hurting them while imagining that such thing will bring benefits to oneself. However, the truth, it does not because nothing good can come from harming others. In fact, I believe, if anything comes from hurting others, it would be very bad thing because the goodness breeds only goodness and the evil breeds nothing but evil. Although I am single and I do not have kids, I have a lot of knowledge about families due to my hobby of watching youtube videos about psychological matters (thanks to Allah). One of the things I have learned from those videos about the relations between family members such as the relation between the life partners, is that taking care of oneself is a part of taking care of the life partner and that a person can not give love in a healthy way if they does not give it to themselves first. It is good that you evaluate the situation fairly when you referred to the reasons why your mother could not give you all the love you needed. You are also right that not feeling loved much by your mother, can actually be the cause of not-loving yourself. In fact, I read and watched many videos confirming that the main role of parents is giving love to their children because the love they gave to them transforms inside them into self-appreciation and that results in their having self-love.



Of course, I do not mind discussing the subject of Mindfulness with you. I am actually glad to provide any kind of help related to your matter as much as possible to me. Actually, I myself when I heard about the term "Mindfulness" for the first time, I could not understand it alone but when I watched videos about it, I began to relate the single words explaining it with the term itself and finally I reached to somewhat a good degree of understanding it. If you use google translate, you will find it means "the quality or state of being conscious or aware of something" or "a mental state achieved by focusing one's awareness on the present moment, while calmly acknowledging and accepting one's feelings, thoughts, and bodily sensations, used as a therapeutic technique."



To make the term "mindfulness" be easy to understand, I am going to mention an example I heard in one of youtube videos as I understand it with reflecting my own thoughts regarding it. Imagine a person and a dog walking into a lovely garden. Both of them are seeing the same beautiful flowers and the same beautiful green trees. In the dog case, it will not have in mind except that beautiful scene.


However, in the case of a person, there are two possibilities. If the person has mindfulness in that situation, he will not have in mind in that moment except ideas about how beautiful that scene is and his emotions would be only enjoying the details of that scene and feeling happy and grateful to be in that garden while if the person is lacking mindfulness, his mind would not even have a single idea about that lovely scene and instead it would be having ideas about the past or the future (things he did or things he did not do and things he should do in the future or he should not such as the important phone call that he should make but he did not make, or the bills that he must pay next week without having enough money to pay and so on). In other words, he seems not to see the beautiful scene of the garden at all and due to his those ideas, his emotions would be very negative. He might feel guilty, sad, depressed and so on according to what ideas he has.



In the first possibility ""Existence of Mindfulness", the person accepts his feelings of joy and happiness which he feels due to being in a lovely garden. In the second possibility "Absence of mindfulness", the person could not even feel those joyful feelings and instead his mind was busy in judgement. He was judging himself for not making that important phone call, for not having the money to pay the bills next week or even for staying in that lovely garden while he has a lot of work to do tomorrow as if he feels guilty to be in the lovely garden. That may be because he does not accept the goodness for himself which I think, may be related to lack of self-love. He may be even judging others passing in the streets of the garden in front of him for any reason.



Another example, in the same youtube video, the lecturer gave an orange to everyone was present in his lecture and first he ask them to focus in every little detail in the orange (how its texture feels when touching it , the smell, the color and so on) and then he asked them to focus on each feeling they have while eating it (the feeling resulting from the taste, the little tiny particles that the orange divided into while eating and so on). He asked them to think about nothing else except that and to try to feel nothing except those feelings related to eating the orange.

The first link of the links below is the link of the video that include those two examples.








By the way, my plain text is not plain deliberately. However, it is just plain because I am not excellent in English. I am trying to improve my English, however, I am glad that its being plain was somehow useful.



I hope that clarify Mindfulness more and please do no hesitate to ask about any of the things I mentioned. I would really be very pleased to help as much as I know and as much as I could.



Kind Regards & Best Wishes.
 
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Hi Sergio,

I am glad you find what I wrote about your case helpful. I told you, you seem to be an intelligent person and after reading your reply, I guess I am right. Well, I also, believe that Allah is God and God is Allah who is the creator of the whole universe. You know what ... I really did not mean to force the issue of religion on you. I just believe faith is really helpful and is a good companion in life events especially in those such as the one you faced and I could not hide that as a sincere advice, so I brought it up.



You know what also, faith increases sometimes and decrease sometimes. We all feel away from God or close to Him from time to time. I just believe that it is very critical to the human-being to be connected to God as He is the highest power that take care of them just like a child is connected to their mother and feels peace and safety due to it. Sometimes, we face, in this life, what is unbearable such as what you faced. A human with its limited emotional power, can not overcome that alone. It is greater than their ability to overcome and that is why human needs God to surrender to Him such matters and to leave those matters in His merciful hands. I believe, surrendering hard matters to the hands of Allah, is relieving a huge burden. It is just letting go what a human can not manage to whom can manage. In the same time, as the wise saying I once read "Put your trust in God, put keep your powder dry", a person should take reasons into consideration. That is why having self-love and mindfulness are necessary to do as they are representing the part of the saying (keep your powder dry) and God helps those who help themselves.



You are right, Sergio, you can not take care of your family if you are not happy and if you are not taking care of yourself. Never feel selfish of taking care of yourself. To me, selfishness, is not even some kind of self-love, instead it is disregarding the interests of others and hurting them while imagining that such thing will bring benefits to oneself. However, the truth, it does not because nothing good can come from harming others. In fact, I believe, if anything comes from hurting others, it would be very bad thing because the goodness breeds only goodness and the evil breeds nothing but evil. Although I am single and I do not have kids, I have a lot of knowledge about families due to my hobby of watching youtube videos about psychological matters (thanks to Allah). One of the things I have learned from those videos about the relations between family members such as the relation between the life partners, is that taking care of oneself is a part of taking care of the life partner and that a person can not give love in a healthy way if they does not give it to themselves first. It is good that you evaluate the situation fairly when you referred to the reasons why your mother could not give you all the love you needed. You are also right that not feeling loved much by your mother, can actually be the cause of not-loving yourself. In fact, I read and watched many videos confirming that the main role of parents is giving love to their children because the love they gave to them transforms inside them into self-appreciation and that results in their having self-love.



Of course, I do not mind discussing the subject of Mindfulness with you. I am actually glad to provide any kind of help related to your matter as much as possible to me. Actually, I myself when I heard about the term "Mindfulness" for the first time, I could not understand it alone but when I watched videos about it, I began to relate the single words explaining it with the term itself and finally I reached to somewhat a good degree of understanding it. If you use google translate, you will find it means "the quality or state of being conscious or aware of something" or "a mental state achieved by focusing one's awareness on the present moment, while calmly acknowledging and accepting one's feelings, thoughts, and bodily sensations, used as a therapeutic technique."



To make the term "mindfulness" be easy to understand, I am going to mention an example I heard in one of youtube videos as I understand it with reflecting my own thoughts regarding it. Imagine a person and a dog walking into a lovely garden. Both of them are seeing the same beautiful flowers and the same beautiful green trees. In the dog case, it will not have in mind except that beautiful scene.


However, in the case of a person, there are two possibilities. If the person has mindfulness in that situation, he will not have in mind in that moment except ideas about how beautiful that scene is and his emotions would be only enjoying the details of that scene and feeling happy and grateful to be in that garden while if the person is lacking mindfulness, his mind would not even have a single idea about that lovely scene and instead it would be having ideas about the past or the future (things he did or things he did not do and things he should do in the future or he should not such as the important phone call that he should make but he did not make, or the bills that he must pay next week without having enough money to pay and so on). In other words, he seems not to see the beautiful scene of the garden at all and due to his those ideas, his emotions would be very negative. He might feel guilty, sad, depressed and so on according to what ideas he has.



In the first possibility ""Existence of Mindfulness", the person accepts his feelings of joy and happiness which he feels due to being in a lovely garden. In the second possibility "Absence of mindfulness", the person could not even feel those joyful feelings and instead his mind was busy in judgement. He was judging himself for not making that important phone call, for not having the money to pay the bills next week or even for staying in that lovely garden while he has a lot of work to do tomorrow as if he feels guilty to be in the lovely garden. That may be because he does not accept the goodness for himself which I think, may be related to lack of self-love. He may be even judging others passing in the streets of the garden in front of him for any reason.



Another example, in the same youtube video, the lecturer gave an orange to everyone was present in his lecture and first he ask them to focus in every little detail in the orange (how its texture feels when touching it , the smell, the color and so on) and then he asked them to focus on each feeling they have while eating it (the feeling resulting from the taste, the little tiny particles that the orange divided into while eating and so on). He asked them to think about nothing else except that and to try to feel nothing except those feelings related to eating the orange.

The first link of the links below is the link of the video that include those two examples.








By the way, my plain text is not plain deliberately. However, it is just plain because I am not excellent in English. I am trying to improve my English, however, I am glad that its being plain was somehow useful.



I hope that clarify Mindfulness more and please do no hesitate to ask about any of the things I mentioned. I would really be very pleased to help as much as I know and as much as I could.



Kind Regards & Best Wishes.
Again, thank you very much for your words of wisdom. I truly appreciate you taking the time to share your thoughts and experience with me and your efforts in coaching me. I know when I explain my own knowledge on a level similar to what you've shared to me, I further reinforce my understanding of that knowledge just by doing so. I hope you benefited from your explaination in a similar manner. One thing that's odd, though I've heard your words from others before, they never meant as much to me as your words have. The way you worded your sentences seems to be pure, unbiased, and with a true understanding. I am going to meditate on what you've said and review the videos you linked. I feel you are providing me knowledge I've been without for so long. Knowledge that, had I been aware of before, would have put me in a much better state of mind than where I am today. Again, thank you
 

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One thing that's odd, though I've heard your words from others before, they never meant as much to me as your words have. The way you worded your sentences seems to be pure, unbiased, and with a true understanding.
Hi Sergio,
You are very welcome and thank you so much for your nice words. May be it is just as wise people said "what comes from the heart goes to the heart". I mean when being honest and sincere, your honesty and sincerity go straight to the heart of the receiver (being a reader or a listener). May be that is why you felt the words not just understand them. Also, I think that may be persons who suffer from hard events in their life become so sensitive due to it and so they have the ability to pick the hidden emotions and signals such as the true concern which may be the cause that you felt that feeling towards my words (That is purely my own thought and I heard nothing about it from any one).

I am clinging to applying the knowledge I shared with you, because it helped me so much in my life. However, I am not claiming that I become perfect in applying them. Counselor "Carl" that I shared his videos with you previously, mentioned that a person must always reminds themselves that the aim to achieve is "progress not perfection". He also said what means once you are in the right road, do not worry and just keep going in it and it will take you where you want to go . Even if you have steps back in the road, just remember you still can go steps forward again till you achieve your goal.

I hope you enjoy your journey of self-development as I enjoy watching and learning of youtube videos which talk about psychological matters. Always remember the wise sayings "Better late than never" and that "Every day is the first day of the rest of your life". Finally, please feel free to share your ideas and thoughts with me, because I also, like to learn from others.

By the way, if you like to receive ideas from more members, you may want to make a post in a division in the forum other than the form division "Introduce yourself". I am sure there are many other members who have wonderful opinions and thoughts about such subjects. They just may not continuously follow the posts in the division of "Introduce yourself". For example, you can post in the division "General Self Improvement"".


With My Kind Regards
 
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Hi Sergio,
I hope you are fine. I read a story about a wonderful woman who faced a terrible abuse from her parents, the people who should protect her, when she was a little girl. Although the terrible events that she faced in her childhood is so different than the terrible event that you faced, I have a feeling that this story may be inspiring to read to you also as it was inspiring to me when I read it. Odd, right?!
Any way, you can follow the link below to read the story if you like.
http://www.jacquidillon.org/biography/background/
With My Kind Regards
 
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Thank you, ma'am. I will see if I can get an extra moment to read that. I've been listening to hypnotic words of encouragement at night time lately and It's been helping a little. I'll try and fit that in tonight and see what happens. Again, thank you very much for your support.
 
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(After writing several paragraphs I realized I was just reflecting on my past and how it went from a dead end to having a family and being able to buy our first home. You don't have to read beyond the first paragraph but are more than welcome to.)

That was a very nice story, I appreciate you sharing it with me. It doesn't seem to be about any real person so much as it is a story about the collective of the many different children who have gone through similar situations growing up. This fits my sister quite well though. Not to this extent but it's definitely an eye opener into what may have happened to my sister as she experienced many similar voices after witnessing our traumatic event.

If I apply this story to myself though, I do see some similarities in my personality and that of the little girls. I was having bad anxiety and panic attacks for many years, almost 10 years in fact, and never understood why. I never halucenated any flashbacks so I never knew what they were even about. It wasn't until after I got them mostly under control that I made a small mistake and smoked someone elses marijuana at a concert in November. I had one of the worst panic attacks I've ever had in the middle of an Ozzy concert. Luckily my old friend, who is more of a brother to me than my own brothers, was there, kept me safe, and watched over me while I rode out the attack.

In a way though, I don't regret that I smoked the other persons stuff. It ended up nearly curing my PTSD. After half an hour at the end of that panic attack I had gone and sat down in the stadium seating because it was getting cold. After trying to ride the attack out and failing, my body began shivering quite severely as it got colder but something happened. As I tapped both of me heels on the ground to warm up, the panic began going away. Full of joy I began slowing down and felt relieved that it was finally ending so I waited patiently for it to completely go away only to find out the panic was starting to intensify again. I immediately began tapping my heels again and the panic started going away.

I realized that my panic attack, and presumably every other one I've ever head, was a hallucinogenic flashback of that night my father was murdered and all I needed to do was run away, so I did just that. The mere act of tapping my heels finally tricked my shocked 6 year old mind from 1989 that I was finally running to safety after all these years and ever since then I've never had another panic attack.

So getting back to the similarities, we both experienced many fake and real terrorizing events that affected us much later in life. I luckily was just able to pinpoint where everything stemmed off from before it got too bad.
 

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Hi Mr.Sergio,
You welcome. It is really great that you analyzing and interpreting your feelings. I have it in my nature to be a care taker and sometimes, I take it so far. I apologize if that bothered you in anyhow. Although you are struggling, it seems that you have things under control which is something you deserve to be proud of. I am glad you feel progress even if it is a little one as you described.
Best Wishes & Kind Regards