Online Infidelity

AmazingP

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With the reach and power of the internet, all aspects of our lives are influenced and affected. And this is also true with finding a relationship or getting a mate. Because internet is a medium to connect, online dating is now a raging fashion and true there are so many couples who meet online and eventually got married.

However, the internet can also be a medium for infidelity -- online infidelity to be exact. Just connecting online, a married man or woman could have all the flirting he/she wants and because the net is global the choices are really unlimited. Remember the disgraced former Congressman Anthony Weiner?

What is your stand on online infidelity? And how would it affect your relationship?
 

zararina

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I think any infidelity whether online or in personal is both bad in a relationship. Those who do online infidelity are fooling themselves cause they know that it was considered cheating already although some would have denying it. There should be always faith and trust in order for a relationship to survive and last long.
 

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Yes, I agreed with you that internet can be a source of infidelity. Before the internet made known to everybody the mobile texting come first which causes man separation, family broken and more bad things and I believed that it is same thing with the internet and it is worsen. That's why a self-discipline and faithfulness is very important if we are married and dealing with some stuff online. Temptation is everywhere and in any forms, that's why internet users must be aware and responsible of their stay online.
 

AmazingP

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Yes, I agreed with you that internet can be a source of infidelity. Before the internet made known to everybody the mobile texting come first which causes man separation, family broken and more bad things and I believed that it is same thing with the internet and it is worsen. That's why a self-discipline and faithfulness is very important if we are married and dealing with some stuff online. Temptation is everywhere and in any forms, that's why internet users must be aware and responsible of their stay online.
Temptations are indeed everywhere and it has indeed gone worse because right now there are now so many tools or gadgets under our disposal which anybody could easily take advantage of. The coming of the internet signals a new challenge for couples whoa re not so committed to each other. Weak marriages and wobbly relationships can be easy targets for infidelity online. And since temptations can be translated into big business, they are all promoted everywhere on the net -- I am talking about online dating sites, porn sites and even the usual social networking sites.
 

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Well I think you don't have to worry if you trust your partner enough and if he/she is showing that he/she is trustworthy. That issue has never been the cause when my hubby and I are having a fight.
We are so much busy in work so we don't have time to chat and flirt with others. We also feel that it isn't right for us to do such senseless things.
 

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I am not that giving much attention to online infidelity as you call it, I believe it depends on the person whether or not he/she will flirt or make friends for a certain benefits he/she can get.

Its a matter of trust and honesty for both partners. :)
 

iebo

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I don't think that chatting with someone online would constitute infidelity. It wouldn't bother me if my girlfriend was chatting to some random guy. Being physically intimate is what I would consider infidelity.
 

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I think it really depends on the couple as individuals and what they have set down as guidelines for their relationship. For some people online infidelity or online chatting can be the same as if adultery was committed. At the same time someone else may say its nothing and is the same as watching porn. There are still others that find porn, romance novels, adult magazines and online chatting/infidelity all to be equal in the world of adultery. It just depends on the people and their views really.
 

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I think fidelity is important no matter what the means of interaction is. You can't claim to have fidelity when you are actually emotionally cheating online. Emotional cheating is dangerous because when your emotions are tied to someone, you feel discontent with your relationship and long to be with someone else. It drives a wedge between you and your partner, and you cannot honestly say you are giving your relationship 100% of your sincerity and effort. Emotional cheating is what leads to physical cheating, in most cases. A lot of people argue that emotional cheating is worse than physical cheating, but I don't really make a distinction.
 

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I think that online infidelity is just as bad as in-person infidelity. If a partner is looking to flirt and connect with people in inappropriate ways on the internet then that person probably has the urge to also do this in person. I think that this would be the first step to physically cheating on their partner. If a person loves their partner they will not seek out another person to have inappropriate relations with. It is being unfaithful to the partner because this person is not being honest with them and is doing something behind their partner's back.

If I caught my boyfriend flirting with other girls online or doing anything worse than that it would hurt me. I would probably break up with him because I would not be able to trust him to be faithful and I would start to wonder if he were actually physically cheating on me as well. Yes, he may just be sitting in front of a computer, but he would be communicating with a live human being who's sitting in front of their computer screen.
 

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Whether online, or in person, infidelity is still infidelity nothing change. Online infidelity might still involved feelings and if you click you might agree to meet somewhere else and that's the beginning of all.
 
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Being married and searching for people to be engaged with, in very intimatre conversation while creating an illusion of being a single person, would be considered infidelity in my opinion. People do this everyday, I think it is the thrill of being hidden from view, that gives them the excitement to do such. Singles in relationships would need boundaries, but there is a bit of difference.
 

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I see it the same as an offline infidelity. It would be dealt with the same way and it would more than likely kill my relationship. I can't guarantee it wouldn't, but given my past experiences with it and where I stand on the issue, I don't think I could ever trust the person again after something like that happened.
 

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If the question is whether flirting online is still considered cheating, I say yes. The fact is, the intention is still there and no matter how much anyone would reason out that they did nothing, it's the thought that counts.

Does this mean that coveting someone else's partner is cheating, probably yes. In the first place, people should steer clear of those in relationships. And justifying it with the saying, "they would've ended it eventually anyway" just doesn't cut it.