i have recently seen a problem in myself. i have a set of values and principles that is made according to years of thinking, reading psychology and philosophy books, and using the internet as a source of wisdom and self growth. i am only 20 years old and most people my age aren't as psychologically developed as me. some things are clear to me. so clear that they don't need an explanation (i once had it but forgot it). i also believe that most things we think that are right, we just feel them, and after that we try to explain to ourselves why. things like "we like different stuff. there is no reason to judge someone because they enjoy something different. except if it's hurting someone else" (there are extremely few exceptions to this). many people my age don't understand this and judge, bully, drag down people that simply like something different, or hold no interest for what others like. another one would be "bullying is wrong. insulting and raging at people is wrong. seeking revenge is fine" - many of the people i know think it's fine to bully/insult others as long as you have a reason to do so. "you can't like this because it's childish", "you can't like this because it's against the norms". some years ago, i used to feel a lot of anger, envy, need for revenge, need for attention, need to prove myself superior, feeling of perfection. i spent a lot of time overcoming those emotions. for example now i don't feel envy anymore. i simply don't. it simply feels natural not to feel it. i can't understand why would i feel it. the most of what i feel of it is that i want things that others have, but i hold no resent, no hate, no negative feelings towards that person i just strive to get that thing if i want it. and when someone that is envious of others asks me how i do it, i don't really know what to tell them except "there is no reason for envy, just strive to get better. that person might have been lucky, but life is unfair. all that matters is you giving your best. because that is the only thing that can actually change things. focus on the solution, not the problem". but this can't make them overcome the feeling. and there are so many other things. the problem is that i find myself in an uncomfortable place whenever someone says something i feel is wrong, but can't explain in words why. i also can't explain why i think i'm right in words. i spend so much time and energy on the contradiction between me and ungrown people that i barely have time and energy to focus on my further growth. how do you guys solve this? whenever someone is insulting me for something i know why is right, i don't flinch, doubt, feel anger or anything but pity for them not understanding. but when someone is insulting me for something i feel is right but can't really explain why.. i start doubting. and in order to solve the doubt i spend a lot of time. i believe that i am using so much time on trying to figure out how to explain my values because most people i know have different values. and it's hard to not be able to at least try to make them understand me, while also helping them grow. i also don't really know how to treat people that insult me for having different beliefs. if i start to explain my values, they start to realize how shitty their way of thinking and their life is, and i don't really like it. if they are not capable of growth, my words can only hurt them. but sometimes my pride takes over and i make them feel like childs who don't understand anything. what advice do you guys have for me?