How to stop desiring women. I'm committed to self-betterment

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I'm 30 y/o male,

I'm working on a project that is very important to me and I'm trying to channel all my focus on
the project. However often I feel very distracted by thoughts about women.

I know this is completely natural. It's just a sign of being healthy straight man. I haven't been out
to go to party or club or anything of that nature for over a year. I don't even mind that much but how
I desire to meet women drives me crazy. Up until now I've managed to override the desire but it's becoming
increasingly difficult to keep it up. I've conditioned myself into thinking that every day I'm not working on the project
is a wasted day. I haven't masturbated for a very long time too. I just don't wanna masturbate. I don't watch porn either.

I don't know should I seek my doctor if he can prescribe something that would lower my libido ?
Any suggestions ?
 

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Taking medication to lower your libido in my opinion is a terrible idea. Your body is fine, and adding an unnecessary medication is really bad for you. Instead take that energy and learn to focus it on channeling on the project. Think of olympic athletes who are not allowed to release sexual energy while they're competing. Do what they're doing.
 
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I also second what whitelotus mentioned above as far as medication goes.

I had a friend who had a similar problem, although his issue seemed to dive more into sex addiction than what you're describing here. Regardless, based on what he told me, what helped him was seeing a professionally trained therapist. I haven't taken therapy myself, but I can see its benefits for issues like these. Therapists are trained to help directly with problems like the one you're having. It's a much better alternative than talking to friends or strangers like me on an online forum who most likely don't have the training or experience to tackle these issues. Consider finding a licensed professional to help you through this.
 

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I don't think there is a need to go to the doctor so he/she can prescribe you drugs to lower your libido. That doesn't sound very natural. You just have to accept that those desires you get to meet women are just thoughts and feeling and if you resist them, they will persist. You have to accept them and let them be there, they can not control you unless you react to them or resist them, judge them, fight with them etc. And know that you are in charge. You decide what you want to focus on and all these other thoughts or feelings, let them come up, welcome them, let them be there, and once you don't give in to them by resisting, they won't have any power over you. You are in control, don't forget that.
 

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Maaaan DO NOT lower your libido, up your focus! This s**t is all about your WHY. You need to dig deep and find out why it's so important to you to focus more. Once you have a great reason it will be easy to focus cuz everything else won't mean s**t to you. Why is it important you dont masturbate? Why is it important you finish this project? If you don't have a strong enough WHY to hold your focus you'll never get very far.

Personally, I decided to drop all that dating and s**t when I wanted to become successful. It was fuckin pointless. I didnt want a damn gf or wife, I wanted to get paid. Why did I want to get paid? So I can help my family. Why do I want to help my fam? Cuz they've been there for me every step of the way and have supported me in any way possible. Knowing your why makes the hard decisions easy. And I used hard cuz I like puns. Hope this helps bruh!

PS: Be thankful you can get it up cuz it's mufuckas out here wishin they could. Gratitude always homie. Namaste'
 
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You know how your life is like the hand with 5 fingers - you got the 5 areas of your life that seek your attention - once a finger is cut - you still have the other 4 - but the severed one hurts like hell and you cannot focus on the other 4.
Same with life - all areas of your life matter, and sexual desire being one of most important needs up the bottom of the Maslow pyramid - it cannot be ignored. I had the same issue some time ago.
The truth is - you cannot ignore it, and supressing it with some medication will just result in other types of issues.
The most successful of entrepreneurs always had a supporting (muse) woman by their side who (bedisdes the huge emotional support) always kept their balls empty and their stomach full. Plus - having an ally woman - is an empowering thing to have. You are hardwired for it.
My advice to you - either find a prostitute to f*** your brains out, it takes some trial and error to find a good one, but once you do it's worth it (masturbation+porn is just an illusion for human companionship, for energy exchange during sex, the same reason why you feel empty afterwards), or a woman who would agree to a sex-with-no-strings-attached type relationship. Trust me, there are. If you're a good f*** - it would be easy.
Or even better - find a woman who is in the same position as you, there are quite a lot of working ladies who need the same thing as you, and don't have time for a relationship. May be even in your department. Just go talk to one and propose this "deal".
 
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Markdeveloper,

I completely understand your desire to stay focused on your project, frankly, that's awesome and more power to you!

I am 28 almost 29 so believe me, I 100% understand the thoughts about women. We're in our prime age of sexual desire buddy.. it's literally in our DNA. Getting a doctor prescribed drug to lower the libido would be like trying to find a way for a dog not to sniff the ground.

Take a LITTLE bit of time to feed into your desire to just simply TALK with a woman, especially an attractive one. Even that much can calm you down. Also, I personally find it rather pointless to not masturbate. It's a psychologically proven healthy mechanism for release of stress so the fact that you're suppressing desires for women while NOT masturbating only hurts yourself. No NEED for porn either. Close your eyes and leave it to the imagination to manifest the "porn" for you.

I hope this helps!

Derek