How to get rid of fear of failure?

Erik913

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What helps me tremendously when dealing with fear of any kind is this:

Imagine that you fail. Now imagine how much stronger will that failure make you and how much will it matter to you or anybody else in 5 years.

“I have not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work.” - Thomas Edison
 

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Despite the fact, that human beings are considered to be one of the superior living creatures, human beings with all their abilities are constantly haunted by two basic fears i.e. fear of future and fear of failure. The reason for this constant fear is the fact that life is full of challenges and uncertainties that bring along with them either success or failure. Everybody loves and craves for success but dread or hate failures. However, in this quest for success, what many people forget is the fact that failure cannot be avoided, but mitigated. In addition to this, various health experts have been emphasising that the fear of failure does more mental damage than the actual failure that may or may not happen. Thus, it is loud and clear that the fear of failure greatly dampens the confidence levels by that damaging professional and personal life.

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Fear of failure is something natural, we all human being fearing not to success when we want to achieve some goals, it can be professional or personal goals. However fear is an emotional disease whish affect our mind" brain" and there are various levels of fear, the highest level of fear can damage our brain and emotional life. In addition, there are many reasons why we fear something, but I believe self-confident is the right and the best medicine to face and overcome fear and it needs a hard work. Personal development.
 

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Despite the fact, that human beings are considered to be one of the superior living creatures, human beings with all their abilities are constantly haunted by two basic fears i.e. fear of future and fear of failure. The reason for this constant fear is the fact that life is full of challenges and uncertainties that bring along with them either success or failure. Everybody loves and craves for success but dread or hate failures. However, in this quest for success, what many people forget is the fact that failure cannot be avoided, but mitigated. In addition to this, various health experts have been emphasising that the fear of failure does more mental damage than the actual failure that may or may not happen. Thus, it is loud and clear that the fear of failure greatly dampens the confidence levels by that damaging professional and personal life.

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The fear of failure is a substantial barrier that need s to be overcome in order to achieve anything of significance in our lives. Failure is a status that is so negatively programmed onto our makeup that the merely the thought of the supposed premise this brings into our lives leads to a lack of confidence or withdrawal form moving forward.

Failing your way to success is a wonderful mind set that elicits a serious level of freedom which is complimented by new found creativity that will in effect lead to the discovery that we have ot yet made which will open us to our success!
 

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"Kill Your Fears and Live an Exciting Life" is an article you might like to read or a book by Susan Jeffers "Feel your Fear and do it anyway"

Fear in an imagined event that feels real in many cases, face your fears and they often melt away.

Best wishes
 
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The world exists because there is failure. We cannot get rid of it, we can only minimize it. Because there is failure, there is such thing as success! So embrace failure, so that success will taste all the more sweeter! :)
 

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Failure is undeniably a part of life that makes us the strong person we want ourselves to be. It can neither be used to measure success in life, nor can it be utilized to compare our future with others. In this world we live in, only the brave ones win. We therefore should face life with courage and determination to realize our dreams. Let us help you with your journey to success by visiting us on our web sites.
 

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I always love the quote:
"Don't let the fear of failure be greater than the excitement of winning" - Robert Kiyosaki
Don't be afraid of fear. It's just a type of feeling. Always remember that every mistake you make is a wonderful revenue for your life.
The only thing that stop you to achieve your goal is yourself :)
 

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I hardly know someone who doesn't fear something or anybody. I believe fear, same with problems, is a part of life that we have to graciously deal with. With that being said, it's important for us to be always on top of these fears and be ready with some effective ways of facing them. Meanwhile, failure shouldn't be thought as a stumbling block. Rather, it should be a confidence booster or a wake up call that we can do better. What could have happened to Bill Gates and Steve Jobs should have they allowed failure to stop them?

Take time to visit sites that promote success and personal development to learn more.
 

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Words to live by:

“Go on in the certain way, and if you do not receive that thing, you will receive something so much better that you will see that the seeming failure was really a great success.”

Wallace D. Wattles

Sort of weird to think about, but is failure really so bad when out of it you become more experienced, wiser, and generally better at achieving success in the future? I think that it's all just a matter of perspective. I myself have difficulty when it comes to failing, but there's a difference between failing and failing gracefully.

What I mean by this, is that the sooner you can understand that your failures have contributed to your character just as much as your successes, the better off you will be when it comes to handling failure. If it was not for failing, how would you ever get better results throughout your life?

Perseverance, inspired action, and applied knowledge are what will turn your failures into successes.

Totally right! As an English teacher in China, I came across students of all ages (from 4 years old, to retired professionals) who would look at a task, and say right away, "I can't." But how did they know they couldn't do something if they had never tried it once before? In the end, it comes down to your upbringing: if you're brought up believing mistakes are bad, you will live your whole life afraid of making them. "A person who never made a mistake never made anything."
 

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Whenever I think about Fear, I think of what it does to people: they do nothing, too scared to make any move or decision. Their lives become mechanical, and then stagnant. What I hope to do in my own coaching practice is to help people break out of this belief that failure is a bad thing; what's more important is having the Willpower to move forward. We are inspired by great people, and great people become great because they took action.
 

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The world exists because there is failure. We cannot get rid of it, we can only minimize it. Because there is failure, there is such thing as success! So embrace failure, so that success will taste all the more sweeter! :)
Thich Nhat Hanh said something similar: to say that you only want pleasure without pain is like saying, "I don't want the left, I only want the right." But this is silly, as without left, we wouldn't know what right is; therefore, the only way we know pleasure is because we also know pain.
 

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Hi - Two other books you could read:
"Psycho-cybernetics 2000" by Maxwell Maltz foundation - an update on the original, also Anthony Robbins, "Awaken the Giant Within"
 

Ally Mckean

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I had a fear of failure when I started my second business and it took some time to move past that.

Through my own personal development I have discovered my purpose, laid out my goals and my vision is clear. I have reduced/cut out any negative energy in my life that was distracting to my goals, such as T.V., and I know how to handle people who try to stop me on my path even when they think they are doing me a favour, such as family members.

I am grateful to have a very successful group of people as part of my mastermind group, they run their own businesses partnering with the same company as I. My point here is about surrounding myself with successful people who are using the same business model as I am, therefore, I can see that they're making it work so I can too.

My belief now is;

Failure becomes a non-issue when you keep your vision in mind and the unwavering belief that you will reach your goals.
 

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In some cases, I do have a fear of failure. But I think the way to dull the fear of failure is to understand that failure happens, and is in fact inevitable. Failure should be looked at as more of a learning experience. It is often a stepping stone for success. Look at many of the successful people today, and throughout history. You will find that there were a lot of failures on the road to success.