How can you teach a child to respect themselves?

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How can parents help their children develop a healthy sense of self respect and self control so they will not want to get involved in risky behaviors such as fighting, drinking, smoking or doing drugs once they hit their teens and start feeling peer pressure to fit in.
 

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How can parents help their children develop a healthy sense of self respect and self control so they will not want to get involved in risky behaviors such as fighting, drinking, smoking or doing drugs once they hit their teens and start feeling peer pressure to fit in.
I don't have child yet, but I do believe that respect will start at home. A harmonious family give a peace of mind for the child. Husband and wife should respect each other as well and avoid shouting and fighting in front of the children. Also, teach a child what is the value and importance of respect and self- control while they are young.
 
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I don't have kids but I know a child's self-image will be developed when they are small at home. It helps if the parents set a good example by having a good opinion of themselves. Then they are more likely to be encouraging to their children.
 

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I don't have child yet, but I do believe that respect will start at home. A harmonious family give a peace of mind for the child. Husband and wife should respect each other as well and avoid shouting and fighting in front of the children. Also, teach a child what is the value and importance of respect and self- control while they are young.
Very good advice for parents and parents-to-be. A child picks up so many good and bad habits from the parents, including how they deal with social situations. If a child grows up in a house filled with turbulence, they are likely to think that is the normal way to conduct a relationship and transfer that to their adult years and find it difficult holding onto a mate.
 
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When growing up, I've always looked up to my parents. They contributed a lot to what I believe in today. With that, I guess the best thing to do is to set an example for our children so that they may follow what we do. If we tell them not to smoke but they see us doing it, what are we telling our children exactly?
 

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I don't have child yet, but I do believe that respect will start at home. A harmonious family give a peace of mind for the child. Husband and wife should respect each other as well and avoid shouting and fighting in front of the children. Also, teach a child what is the value and importance of respect and self- control while they are young.
Definitely :) A harmonious family is the #1 defense against the many influences a child may pick up bad behavior from. Stay in tune with your child's needs and insecurities. Kids often turn to bad influences to seek the approval they do not receive at home.
 
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I agree with all that has been said above. Me, as a parent, will set a good example to my kids by being respectful, diligent, law-abiding, and being gentle even if things are rough. I believe that what kids see is what they project to others so as a parent, we must be responsible enough in whatever we do for our kids to inherit the good attitude.
As soon as my kids can understand me already, I will definitely teach them that everyone should be respected, even if that person is of the same age.
 

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As parents, we can tell our kids blah blah blah but the most important thing is the example we are setting for our children. Of course, we have to communicate these in words but nothing will ever influence them more than what they are seeing from us.

When we treat each other with respect and we also at the same time give respect for our children, they will learn of its importance. And the best thing is that they would also be teaching the same thing to their children.

Respect begets respect.
 

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I agree that it should be seen and learned at home by those kids. It will be hard to teach them to be peaceful if there are always disputes in the house. Just like respect, if they can not see people in the household respecting and loving each other, they will definitely be confused on what is the real meaning or execution of it.
 

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I live with the understanding that I can love, teach and be a role model for my child. But I do not have control over her choices. I think that is the hardest truth for parents to accept: There is no foolproof parenting. We need to be able to love our children despite their choices, not because of them.
 
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Respecting hinges on self-esteeme. Children go through processes of development as they understand more complicated ideas. It's like flying. You want your child to fly, yet, you don't want them to fall and get hurt. IF you don't let them experience life, they lose confidence. Certain things they should never get into; drugs, alcohol and stuff... but attention is everything. You can't spoil a child with attention. It is the lack of attention that hurts. IF you make up for it with objects that define expression (presents,) they define there confidence on that. When they grow up and find life isn't a sliver platter for them, it gets hard. Also, creating high expectations doesn't help for many times we define those expectations and we want them to be just like ourselves. Always taking the child SERIOUSLY, listening to them and telling them if they can think it, they can do it, then they'll try. But, you also have to let them know it takes practice and you will be there when the fail, to just help them get up again. If you believe your child can do what they put there mind to, they can have the confidence to make it happen. Yet, if they find it is to hard, then there are also other goals they can work on and achieve. The wrong way is getting mad when they fail, telling them that they are a lost cause. (my mother kept doing that over the pettiest of stuff... so, I developed low self-esteem and a vulnerability complex. When you allow yourself to listen to them, even when your having a hard time, being a friend as much as a parent, There are many things other than this to take into consideration, but the first step is to let them know without a doubt, they are important and part of the family... not hinderance in anyway, then you can go from there.
 

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Talk to your children! Don't be afraid to talk about the heavy stuff whether it be drugs, alcohol, smoking, sex, language, health, wellness. Practice what you preach at home there is a good chance it will become a part of your children's makeup and hopefully doing the right thing will be done by them unconsciously. If they make a poor choice don't seep it under the rug, talk about it in the moment and make it a learning experience.
 

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How can parents help their children develop a healthy sense of self respect and self control so they will not want to get involved in risky behaviors such as fighting, drinking, smoking or doing drugs once they hit their teens and start feeling peer pressure to fit in.
Hi there, Triple M!

I guess you have to be the person you want your kids to be when they grow up. Make time and talk to them. Ask them about about said behaviors and enlighten them.
 
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Make sure they have lots of different socialising opportunities and hobbies so that they don't cling onto a bad group of friends, then there will be no pressure to do bad stuff because they know there are better options out there and they can still be popular without doing drugs etc