Hi, I am, soo new to all this so forgive me please if I don't make much sense although I am going to try my best. I am also a little skeptical about even posting this, but I need as much advice as I can get right now for those who understand what it is like women and men... to feel like you no longer are desired in a relationship that you have invested so much time, love and energy in. Well, my story is a bit different and I am hoping that someone on here can relate because I am with a man who is 19 years older than me who also has a disability. Me & my fiancé of almost 4 years now have been a couple for a little over 5 years now. He is 48 and I am 30. He will be turning 49 in March , no it doesn't bother me that he is much older than me because we get along as friends so well and the age thing really never bothered me. Okay so , I am going to get straight to the point about the problem that me have been having. He is considered a quadriplegic, he needs a walker or wheelchair to get around but he never uses his wheelchair, he actually does very good for someone who almost lost their life 22 years ago. He is doing much better now ever since his wreck & is very fortunate to be where he is now anyways when we first got together the sex was amazing because well.. he is very blessed in size, had gained his sex drive back omg he was just like any normal person to me the way he knew exactly what to do , one of the few things that he gained back were soo much feeling in that but also in his whole entire body he has feeling. He has very bad muscle spasms , pain, still has other issues. Besides that he has been ,my superman ever since we got together and I fell n love with his personality and looks. He helped ,me get out of a very abusive relationship. When we first got together and even two years into our relationship after we were engaged he knew how to make me happy. He was into taking me out to eat every night and buying me sexy outfits , I would wear them gladly because I wanted to please him and I also liked the attention from him. I was always his princess and the sexiest thing to him. I started to get use to the compliments, I loved him still do but all them compliments stopped and the sex stopped after almost 3 years. I admit I was drinking a lot and going out with friends more than I should . I never got to do that in any of my previous relationships because of the 4 years I was with my first love I was never into it and the 5 years I was with my second because he was very controlling. Well, me and my fiancé have not had sex in over a year and he tells me its bc of my drinking. I have gotten out of hand a few times but I honestly think that he is afraid to lose me even though I stopped going out with friends and I love on him all the time. He says I do not listen to him and that I need to lay off. I am missing our date nights and all of the romantic times. I just want my Fiance back sooo bad! I am not interested in any other men. I wish he knew that! I am so honest with him , I tell him everything!!!!! Please someone , give me some advice . I just turned 30 and I am a good looking confident woman. I just wish he felt the same , he says he does but I don't hear it much at all. If I haven't been clear enough please someone ask ???? and try to help me bc I a thinking about moving on even though I love him.