CAN YOU FORGIVE?

Erica Faith

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Loved your article!

I think of resentment like a big catch basin of water. It fills up until bursting. And forgiveness is the floodgate.
And if you are filled with resentment, It may one day define who you are and will ultimately destroy you.
 

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You should consider forgiveness whenever you can. I was once told “Not forgiving someone is like taking poison and expecting the other person to die.”

I would like to be able to take this advice but when you are in the situation it is much harder to let go of all those negative emotions and forgive. I can see that not forgiving the person is damaging me probably a lot more than it is damaging them but I am still unable to take that step and forgive.
 
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To forgive others is a a gentle act but it has some exceptions and in some relations the forgiveness is not easy and in some cases you have to forgive. I personally prefer forgiving others because it builds strong relations.
 
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Moving On: How
Letting go of grudges and bitterness can make way for happiness, health and peace. Forgiveness is a decision to let go of resentment and thoughts of revenge. The act that hurt or offended you might always remain a part of your life, but forgiveness can lessen its grip on you and help you focus on other, more positive parts of your life. Forgiveness may not always be easy, but it can be done more easily with a few exercises and the right mindset.

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“The first to apologize is the bravest. The first to forgive is the strongest. The first to move forward is the happiest.”

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It helps to forgive more easily by getting something off your chest. If someone has treated you unfairly, no matter who he/she is, politely tell him/her about it. If that person gets defensive, that's on him/her. You will have an easier time moving on and getting on with your day.
 

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I personally can forgive everything I have went through. There are a few things that if it were to happen to me, I would find it nearly impossible to forgive. One thing I find is that forgiving is freeing. It is more about setting yourself free from what has happened to you. After all, they say that living well is the best revenge.
 

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Hi and welcome everybody! @tomasoberg

I think, the act of forgiveness is related to some core believes which you have. One of them is "THE PURE AND CLEAR INTENSION".
If you have that, nothing can break it - anytime somebody do sth bad for you, you know immediately that he or she has done it with positive intension!

ONE RULE = NEVER, EVER QUESTION SOMEBODY'S INTENSION!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 

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How about start with yourself first? I have long come to the conclusion that the only person I can truly change is myself. And even that is pretty darn hard. Most people expect to change everyone else but rarely demand change of themselves. But you are right about the children, if you can provide them with excellent personal example so they can use you as a role model.
 

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Patrick, I see this is an older post, but since I can relate so much, I'd like to respond. Maybe by now you are having a much easier time forgiving But it really depends on how hard you have been hurt by others. And on their motives as well. I also have very hard time forgiving sometimes, and it actually used to be extremely difficult for years and years. Until I read somewhere that it really isn't for that other person so much as it is for me to be able to clear space in my mind and heart in order to fill that space with more productive thoughts and goals so I can move on with my own life and benefit from moving on. After all, you deserve peace, too, right? How else would you have peace unless you make some room for it. There is an excellent exercise I learned during a self-improvement seminar I went to years ago. Let me know if you want me to tell you details, as I don't want to dominate the conversation here. It's great you were going to therapy though, I hope you stuck with it.