Can A Marriage Survive Without Sex?

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Yeah! Example to that is my mother.
My father passed away already and she has met another man younger than her.
As I can see, the man really loves her based on the efforts he does just to make my mom happy.
Well I guess, you can't stop true love even if you are old already. :)
Yes I agree.
Although it's very tragic to see a loved one pass away, they would want you to be happy.
There is nothing wrong with finding love again, as long it is true and is not just lust.
 

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If the bride and the groom are both not interested in sex, then yes. The marriage can survive. But in normal instances, it won't. Usually it leaves one of the individuals frustrated and bitter about the other. In that case it won't take too much time for everything to fall apart.
 

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Of course it can, relationship isn't just about intimacy sex, it's just part of the whole relationship itself.

If you're just up to sex, then you're just looking for something to satisfy your wants. '

Nothing can hinder love if what you feel is pure love.
 

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Yeah! Example to that is my mother.
My father passed away already and she has met another man younger than her.
As I can see, the man really loves her based on the efforts he does just to make my mom happy.
Well I guess, you can't stop true love even if you are old already. :)
This just shows that in so many times and so many lives, the thread that really holds couple together -- and even all of us -- is love. And love goes beyond sex or physical satisfaction as it is the caring and the concern for the welfare of each other that would really last a lifetime. Love is the greatest force the entire universe is feeding on.
 

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If the bride and the groom are both not interested in sex, then yes. The marriage can survive. But in normal instances, it won't. Usually it leaves one of the individuals frustrated and bitter about the other. In that case it won't take too much time for everything to fall apart.
Hmm it seems you slightly misunderstood the topic of the thread.
It's asking if a marriage can survive withOUT sex, not with it.
You just reversed it, because I think most marriages do survive with sex as most families have children.
 

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Hmm it seems you slightly misunderstood the topic of the thread.
It's asking if a marriage can survive withOUT sex, not with it.
You just reversed it, because I think most marriages do survive with sex as most families have children.
I was saying a marriage without sex can survive only if the bride and groom both are not interested in it. Also, I said in normal instances such marriages can't survive.
 

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Sex is something so interesting to discuss because it can easily catch attention from both men and women. For mature people, it is an issue no more taboo to talk with especially in a healthy and properly placed environment.

In marriage, one of the things that could really bond and makes a man and a woman one flesh is sex. Sex is important not just for procreation but also a great expression of the love between the husband and wife.

However, there could be some exceptional circumstances where the capacity to have a satisfying coitus can already be hampered. Can marriage still be normal without the benefits of physical sex acts?
Gosh, I don't know. can it survive without emotional intimacy? Many times lack of physical intimacy is only a manifestation of an emotional problem between the couple. There are physical reasons for it at times, but for the most part, people who can't get along outside the bedroom aren't going to make any effort to do so within it.

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I am sure any married couple if truly in love could survive without sex. Being 26 years married this has never been an issue for me and my spouse. We enjoy our intimate time together daily. I would not want it any other way. Happy to know that in our later years if we are still as active there is Viagra. I personally feel that if you do not keep your partner sexually satisfied they may stray. But then again it all depends on the people in the relationship.
 

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I can't speak from personal experience, but yes I heard that people are married without being sexually active. Whatever is going on between two people they have to define what is called, "normal." I think having sex is just another extension of your marriage, but you don't have to participate. Frequently, I do hear that the drive for sex decreases as you age. Even the fact of being "in love" becomes weaker too. I guess if you want to continue to have sex you have to constantly communicate your needs and wants by compromising on a daily basis. Everybody has different sexual needs but sometimes you have to put your own needs aside to satisfy the one you love. Hopefully, I will be able to do that one day!
 
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If you like your partner, care for them, love them and want to be with them, a period of time where sexual activity is impossible for whatever reason, should be able to be tolerated. As people get older, there will be a lessening of desire where only cettain things will be done, but both people will be able to handle it. Some people do have stronger sex drives and may have a tendency to stray, this may or may not be tolerated, depending on the circumstances. Sex after all, is a part of marriage.
 

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If you like your partner, care for them, love them and want to be with them, a period of time where sexual activity is impossible for whatever reason, should be able to be tolerated. As people get older, there will be a lessening of desire where only cettain things will be done, but both people will be able to handle it. Some people do have stronger sex drives and may have a tendency to stray, this may or may not be tolerated, depending on the circumstances. Sex after all, is a part of marriage.
Sex is part of marriage and even though it is important it does not mean that a marriage can be broken without it. In fact, the love can even deepen when both partners will be honestly open about their situation and any problem they could be encountering related to sex. People who could have a problem with regular sex should instead focus on real intimacy which may not necessarily including the sexual act. As always, open and honest communication is the key. People should understand that as the marriage goes on, the focus can be veering away from those physical contacts but more on just being with each other. :D
 

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I believe that a great marriage will survive even without sex. As long as the companionship, love and happiness is still there.

You did not marry someone just because of SEX.. You get married because you are happy to be with her/him.
You get married because you want to spend your whole life with him/her.
 

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I believe that a great marriage will survive even without sex. As long as the companionship, love and happiness is still there. You did not marry someone just because of SEX.. You get married because you are happy to be with her/him. You get married because you want to spend your whole life with him/her.
Sex is not everything but certainly an important part. However, it would be nearly impossible to have a happy marriage at the start without sex because this is a vital part for the union and being "One." But as we age and after years of being together, there would come a time when sex is not holding the same priority as it was and that would be a time when the absence of sex would no more be an issue. Except of course if the other person --usually the man -- still have kicking libido and in which case a friction can manifest in the relationship. I think it would really be better if the couple can be growing together on the same rate as far as libido or sexual desire is concerned. :D
 

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Yes it can survive depending on their situation. But of course it's the number one tool to happy marriage. So I say it's really important.
 

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I don't think mine would. I would definitely not be able to remain committed to someone if they sat me down and told me that they never planned on having sex again. That would mean that I, in turn, would never be having sex again if I remained in the marriage. I could sit here and lie all day, but I wouldn't be down for that.

I think a strong marriage should be able to survive without sex every single day, though. I am always trying to explain this to my partner, who thinks our lives are crumbling and that we are losing each other if we go like, 4 days, lol. You should be able to wait a reasonable amount of time if your partner isn't in the mood for whatever reason (illness, busy, etc).

But to not have sex at all? I know myself well enough to know I couldn't survive for months on end without the touch of a man. No way.
 
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I know people who are married and say they have not had sex for years for one reason or another. Whether it is true or not, we cannot know for sure. I think it is possible for the marriage to survive. You can be very intimate and bond with someone without having sex, in my opinion.
 

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Yes it does survive, but depends on the couple if they' can last long without doing that thing. But mostly as we get aged we don't focus more on those things .
 

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I think the only reason people think it's normal to lose their sex drive as they get older is that people don't know how to take care of their bodies. Many older people actually have an incredibly strong sex drive, sometimes stronger than young people. These are people who take care of their bodies, eat right, exercise a lot, and have a healthy mindset. I plan on being one of these people as I get older myself, so it would be important to me to have a partner who felt the same and didn't just shrug away his sex drive as a factor of getting older.
 
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You are correct. Staying healthy is a big part of it. I also think your mental attitude is a large part. Active mind, active body. The beat goes on.
 

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I think the only reason people think it's normal to lose their sex drive as they get older is that people don't know how to take care of their bodies. Many older people actually have an incredibly strong sex drive, sometimes stronger than young people. These are people who take care of their bodies, eat right, exercise a lot, and have a healthy mindset. I plan on being one of these people as I get older myself, so it would be important to me to have a partner who felt the same and didn't just shrug away his sex drive as a factor of getting older.
I couldn't agree more to what you said :), I too want to have that kind of sex drive or more when I grow older, .