Breakup Recovery -Worthlessness-

J E Roberson

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Among many other challenges after my divorce and break up, (Yea 2 times, I faced this pain) I really struggled with 3 main areas.
1. Feeling worthless
2. Thinking about my ex
3. finding a direction to move forward in.
I crawled out of the mud, fail back but did not give up on making a better life for myself. I faced heavy emotions really heavy and honestly wanted revenge. I got it! I found out living well is the best revenge! You feel me?

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Here is the definition of worthless
-having no real value or use, no good qualities.

If we feel worthless after a relationship it can be because we have a skewed scale. We must ask "what rating scale am I using to feel worthless". This scale is an erroneous comparison we are making. We can compare to the relationships of friends, or even compare to older or future situations and standards we create for ourselves. For me I compared my relationship failure and divorce to my parents who were married over 30 plus years at the time.

We all have our own journey and path and although our paths cross others it is important and empowering to remember our life is our own and we can gain clarity and knowledge when we embrace our situation. If you feel worthless and like a piece of you is missing after a breakup, ask what is the comparison scale. If it is just feeling better you have a goal, if it is another persons life you should reconnect and seek your personal purpose.

Thats the first step to eliminating feelings of worthlessness after a breakup and if you need additional support or just free information go here and join me
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aspecialist

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Certainly, living away from someone whom we truly care and love is a hard thing to do. The important thing is we took our chance and fought hard to save it and make it work. If you want to learn more about how you can improve your relationship with other people, take time to visit our web site.
 

Nas

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Hey J E Roberson, thanks for your sharing it's very interesting!
Did you ask yourself why did you make comparison?
I almost fell into the trap when I experienced the love obsessional but to stay single allowed me to be safe.
I hope you will find answers in your way ;-)
 

J E Roberson

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That is a great question Nas. I personally and with clients never ask questions about the rearview of life. Because once I get the answer to why things happen I am standing firmly in the energy of it happening. This thus makes me very attractive and magnetic to that situation and more likely to have it occur again.

I think of it like this, if we give money to something we employee it and motivate it to show up to get paid. This is the same with our life challenges and what we "PAY" attention to. If we don't want it in the future don't pay for it, is my motto.