Are You Missing This Key Success Skill/Tool??

J E Roberson

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A mindful watch on anyone who is well-accomplished and balanced will usually show this skill. This skill allows one to overcome common adverse circumstances and persevere when negativity would thwart the forward movement of most. What is this skill?

The art of self-soothing. This can be explained as the ability to tell yourself what you would like to hear from others. (Better yet what you think you “NEED” to hear from others.)

QUESTION
Truly, are you playing the victim role and feeling deprived of kind words. Do you need a verbal pat on the back and try to force others through guilt or manipulation to appreciate you? Stop it and accept the fact no one knows you like you know yourself. No one could possibly at all times know exactly what to say to you to increase your good feelings.
The good news is you do. You know exactly what you need and you can give it to yourself.

Today tell yourself some great things about yourself; maybe even say them in the mirror to your face if you are bold enough. Also take people off the hook today, give them a pass on what they should say to fit in your box. Just cut out the middleman and say exactly what you want them to say to yourself.

The benefits are increased energy since you are recycling energy that may normally be wasted with disappointment. You are kinder to others because they don’t have to jump through your hoops to connect with you. You will also become mentally stronger because you’ll have a voice of encouragement pushing you to greater accomplishments!
 

Elhama

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The art of self-soothing. This can be explained as the ability to tell yourself what you would like to hear from others. (Better yet what you think you “NEED” to hear from others.)

QUESTION
Truly, are you playing the victim role and feeling deprived of kind words. Do you need a verbal pat on the back and try to force others through guilt or manipulation to appreciate you? Stop it and accept the fact no one knows you like you know yourself. No one could possibly at all times know exactly what to say to you to increase your good feelings.
The good news is you do. You know exactly what you need and you can give it to yourself.

Hi J E Roberson,

I liked that you call that skill an art because I think it needs good imagination to practice it. One should imagine themselves as a lawyer that defends themselves against everything they face to assert themselves.

You are right no one know a person more than themselves, so yes no one can find the most suitable way to sooth a person like the person themselves.

Kind Regards