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  1. Ellyn

    Wisdom: It's what you get from a lifetime of listening...

    ...when you would rather have talked. I forgot where I read that quote, but I like it. Of course, there's a time to speak up and have your voice heard, and it's always a right for you to do so, to have a voice, and to be heard and considered. You shouldn't have to remain silent for a whole...
  2. Ellyn

    The Hamster Wheel!

    This is a career path that's less of a career path and more of a vicious cycle. Living hand-to-mouth and saving just enough to cover minor obstacles. How have you gotten out of this? Or how do you plan to? Or are you fortunate/smart enough to have never gotten into it? Will you run fast...
  3. Ellyn

    Conditions for Personal Change

    Today I found this very interesting article, "Why Do People Persist In Believing Things That Just Aren't True?" Rather than try to set people "straight" about vaccinations, racism, or climate change it examined how people can or can't be persuaded to change an opinion. Basically, it gave me...
  4. Ellyn

    Morality Question: Do You Have To TRY To Be Good?

    I don't mean "try" as in "leeway is given to fail" -- I mean "try" as in "to put extensive effort into it". I've grown up with a rather mixed messages. The first message being this: People are naturally lazy and immoral, so true accomplishment requires that we constantly go against our own...
  5. Ellyn

    How To Apologize

    Chescaleigh on YouTube did a pretty good breakdown for it, in my opinion, as applies to something done or said that oppresses a marginalized group of people. The one thing I think that she could have stressed more, is to listen and learn about the wrongdoing first. Only once you've decided...
  6. Ellyn

    When Do You Punch Back?

    I don't mean literally, of course, but maybe in some unfavorable situations it can get to that point. This one quote from one of my favorite characters in (what used to be...later seasons are getting kind of bad) my favorite television series: We've all got individual limits, though. Some...
  7. Ellyn

    Eating Disorder Recovery

    So, I'm recovering from anorexia. There's this stereotype that this disorder only develops in spoiled upper-middle class girls who are too vain and gullible to survive, but I don't quite fit that and I suspect that even those who fit the stereotype have issues that go deeper than these knee-jerk...
  8. Ellyn

    Divine Inspiration

    Elizabeth Gilbert, author of personal development and travel autobiography Eat, Pray, Love (which became a movie starring Julia Roberts) gave a TED talk about creativity (link goes to YouTube). She speaks to those with the view and experience of the creative process, and the creative force, as...
  9. Ellyn

    Romance Roots

    Somebody asked a couple who had been married for over five decades, how they managed it. The reply was, "We grew up in a time where if something was broken, we would fix it. Not throw it away." Couples might feel that sustaining their relationship is a matter between the both of them, and that...
  10. Ellyn

    What's Your Emotional Needs Hierarchy?

    Gary Chapman wrote about five ways that people show they care (although I think, on the flip side, they can also influence a person who wants to show the opposite...more on that in a bit.) Physical affection Words of praise Acts of service Quality time Material gifts Some people speak from...
  11. Ellyn

    Power Parenting

    I watched this interesting video today (don't worry, the link goes to a transcript) about how to raise children who are less vulnerable to molestation or, when they get older, to abusive relationships. Here's the link. This isn't a matter of blaming victims and survivors for not being...
  12. Ellyn

    Shadow and Soul Retrieval

    My spiritual experiences might sound too far out there, but if it's any assurance, I do believe that they are only "real" as concepts...and when I take about them as events, with textures, colors, and features of an actual experience, this is only my own mind's way of translating it into...
  13. Ellyn

    Alchemy

    When I first heard about this, it was as a curiosity. Like, that's cool and old-timey and interesting but...so what? We have chemistry now. Even after reading about how pioneer psychologist/spiritualist and philosopher Carl Jung considered Alchemy as a language or metaphor for the psyche, I...
  14. Ellyn

    Relationships as Morality

    1. Feeling Good In Yourself I had to leave my abusive home life, even though I wasn't ready to strike out on my own yet. I would never have been ready if I'd stayed. I was desperate, and fortunate that I had a friend who would support me through this--emotionally, and in terms of economic...