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  1. Caroline

    How do I get rid of negative thoughts that make me feel like giving up?

    I would be interested in knowing what your work routine is like, how you plan your day and how you plan the project work. Break the project into very small chunks, things you can plan on an hourly basis. Take breaks every hour and reward yourself. I use a timer and work in 50 minute segments and...
  2. Caroline

    Do we use entertainment to avoid difficult situations?

    Gosh yes, I think everyone does sometimes. Problems involve pain and our natural reaction is to avoid pain whenever possible. It takes self-discipline and courage to face something unpleasant but the feeling after we do is wonderful. We fool ourselves into thinking if we avoid a problem long...
  3. Caroline

    Being out of work

    I didn't work for 5 years due to medical reasons and became deeply depressed, even suicidal during that time. I had lost my sense of usefullness and my independence, it was a huge struggle. The way I eventually climbed out of the pit I'd sunk into was through volunteer work (which is a huge...
  4. Caroline

    Share What You Have

    I definitely agree, we cannot give away what we do not have. When we begin sharing an interesting thing happens: not only do we fill the other person but we are also filled at the same time. In other words, we reap what we sow. Everyone has something to share and they must share it because our...
  5. Caroline

    Things to learn from dogs

    I like #18 - No matter how often you're scolded, don't buy into the guilt thing and pout ...run right back and make friends. My life was once controlled by guilt over mistakes I had made or thought I had made. Living in regret prevents us from moving forward. I used to teach dog obedience...
  6. Caroline

    How to Develop Self-Esteem

    A great way to do this is carry a small notebook with you and write down things that make you happy. This can be anything like seeing a puppy, opening a door for someone or whatever makes you smile. What this does is help you focus on the positive -- what we focus on increases.
  7. Caroline

    The Point of Life

    I think we have a deep need to keep improving, to reach higher and become more than we are.
  8. Caroline

    How to Develop Self-Esteem

    Yes, mslianne, it is good to set goals and try things that are a little bit of a stretch and then keep expanding as each goal is accomplished. If there is a big goal, break it down into smaller and smaller steps so it doesn't look so big and impossible. Concentrate on one step at a time, that is...
  9. Caroline

    How to Develop Self-Esteem

    Thank you Speedy! You make a great point about sharing and teaching what we know. A great way to develop in any area is to teach it and we don't have to know everything or be "experts" to do that. As we share and teach others, we are also teaching ourselves.
  10. Caroline

    How to rid off shyness

    I would advise starting small rather than jumping to large crowds immediately if you have the choice. However, being forced into the situation can make you realize your worst fears are probably unlikely to happen.
  11. Caroline

    How to rid off shyness

    I grew up very, very shy and completely lacking in self esteem and confidence. In my early twenties I hated myself so much I decided to change no matter what. One thing I did was pretend. I pretended I wasn't shy and had no confidence, I acted as if I could do the things I wanted to do. It was...
  12. Caroline

    How to Develop Self-Esteem

    iebo, I agree, that is definitely one technique to raise self esteem. Far too often we only notice our failures and never stop to celebrate our successes, no matter how small they appear to be. One thing I teach my clients to do is keep a success journal and write in it every day or week. I also...
  13. Caroline

    How to Handle Loneliness

    Reading the responses, we can clearly see a common thread: if you want to end loneliness you must DO something about it. Too often (and I have done this myself,) we dwell on the problem and it becomes larger. When you focus on something, it grows. There are three basic components to making...
  14. Caroline

    The Point of Life

    So many people want to know why they are here; they want to know if they have a purpose, what it is and how to fulfill it. I think it is less what we do and more what we are and become. I think everyone has the same overall purpose: learn how to love unconditionally and leave this place better...
  15. Caroline

    Working on the presentation for my next self esteem workshop in London, Ontario.

    Working on the presentation for my next self esteem workshop in London, Ontario.