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  1. denydritz

    Why is it that I can't figure anything out myself?

    I want to comment on this specific part. It's OK to "lose time" figuring things out, because once you figure it out, you make a breakthrough in understanding. For example, Thomas Alva Edison didn't "lose time" figuring out light bulbs; once he understood it, it became a major breakthrough. And...
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    I hate daily routines. Is that okay?

    A daily routine and a daily schedule, the way I see it, are two different things. A routine can be done during a certain time of day, like a morning routine. A daily schedule involves all the tasks you want to do for the day. If you feel excited about tomorrow by planning tonight, then continue...
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    Success Principles

    It sounds like you are trapped into thinking that there is a 'perfect' path to your purpose. Are you using a guideline or checklist? What is the first principle of success that you know? A mastermind is useful and very valuable, but not compulsory. Other than a mastermind, you can also work...
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    Personal Development Book Recommendations

    Vishen recently announced he got divorced, and it's causing quite a stir in his community since he promotes "mindfulness" and "bending reality," but he purportedly couldn't "save" his marriage. Hmm ... I've read his book too, and there are some great points that I try to apply into my life...
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    How to overcome the fear of public speaking?

    Fear of public speaking comes from thinking about your self image instead of the message you want to say. When we focus on our self image, it becomes a priority. What other people think about us, what other people say, and how they react to us, becomes more important and urgent than the message...
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    How to stop procrastinating once and for all?

    Hey DayProv, that's a good article you wrote. I've never heard about the rocking chair exercise from Tony Robbins, it sounds like a tool that can wake us up and stop procrastinating. I was looking into this issue a few weeks ago, and I realized that most of us procrastinate when we aren't...
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    How to stop caring what others think of me?

    Hey Duncan, you say that you feel everyone would think you're weird for deciding to be a life coach. When you say everyone, do you have specific people in mind? Who specifically do you predict would say you are weird for being a life coach? Can you describe the situation where they say it to...
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    Is it wrong to do too much work?

    Hi Leo, I think you don't need to see everything you do related to personal development as different things. I see them as vectors (directional energy) that all head towards the same direction. That's what's important. There is no conflict when you do multiple techniques to improve yourself. An...
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    When your ideas are not encouraged, what to do?

    The people who matter are the ones who will benefit from your idea, e.g your customers and stakeholders. The people near you aren't the same as the people who matter. There is a difference. The brain can trick us into believing that the people near us (friends, relatives, co-workers) are the...
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    What exactly is self discipline, and how do I make sure that I have it?

    I have an unpopular opinion that discipline isn't necessary, at all. With regards to your question, it's difficult to measure discipline because it's arbitrary. The case where I assume a uniform level of discipline is measured is in the army. Other than that, "discipline" can be anything you...
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    QUESTIONS TO ASK ABOUT MAKING A CHANGE

    I learn that regret comes from having a goal to occur in the past. We have the goal in the present, but we want it to happen in the past. Since it's impossible, we feel regret. The way I see it is life is never worse or better, but different. In cases of property violation (like war or murder)...
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    do you guys think i creep her out when i saw her and i just stood there and look at her from afar but then look away?

    I don't think you creep her out. The reason why she hasn't gone there yet is probably something else. One thing I learned is that other people are too busy with their own lives to think about us. What we thought was the reason turns out to be nothing at all, most of the time. If you want to...
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    Question about laziness and need feedback on my current mindset

    Hi @psdev When you say you have low energy, it sounds like there could be a problem with your eating habits. Besides, our thinking habits, what we eat greatly affects our energy levels. Low energy manifests as laziness. How do you eat, if you don't mind sharing? Do you eat more clean, healthy...
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    How to Stay Focused on Your Goals

    Yes, I agree with this quote from Brendon, though I word it differently. We lose focus on our goals because we aren't clear about our goals. We may say we want to achieve some goal, such as earn an extra $1,000 per month, but if the process isn't clear, we become demotivated. A clear goal...
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    How can i slow my speaking and also how can i remove the awful mistakes i do while speaking?

    What do you want to achieve with your conversations? The point of a conversation is to either send a message or receive a message. In regards to speaking, as long as the message is sent, then the speaking is successful, regardless of how you speak. I would ask myself whether the message was...
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    What do you think about this goal-setting technique?

    I've used the SMART goal-setting approach before with some success. But I later learn that we can't control achieving our goals if they are results. We can only control our goals if they are actions. For example, achieving a goal of a certain amount of income per month is outside of our...
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    How can I develop my own willpower?

    Why did the failed project impact you so greatly? Have there been any other failures you experienced, but didn't affect you as much? Willpower implies that we have no power, and therefore we have to generate it. I agree that identifying your passion (why you do what you do) is more important...
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    How to solve these challenges?

    Hi @psdev I want to reply that I believe that the majority of successful people don't get it right the first time. From all of my mentors, only ONE got it right from the start, and that's because he spent YEARS thinking about how to think correctly. Even then, several of his business ventures...
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    How to solve these challenges?

    Hi @psdev I want to share my experience about your second question. It seems that you're suffering from 'analysis paralysis', information overload, or the problem of 'perfection.' I am also a 'perfectionist' to some degree but I am learning to be as 'imperfect' as I can and get things rolling as...
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    The Biggest Problems In The Self-Help Community

    Hi Ben, I agree with your opinion. It seems that a large part of the self help community rely on 'shortcut' thinking that leads to errors in thinking. As long as we don't think correctly, and rely on shortcuts or 'magic recipes' such as the Law of Attraction, then I believe our success will be...