My personal opinion is, I hate the thought of cheating on someone. How can someone put someone else through that? Me and my partner have spoken about this in the past, quite a few times, as we have both been cheated on in the past (not by each other). I don't think I could ever do that to anyone, I have enough respect for my partner to not put them through that and if a time comes when its even entering my head, i'll do the decent thing and walk away from my partner.
I would never cheat on my husband nor would he cheat on me. I don't know how people can actually stay with someone who cheated. I would drive myself crazy wondering every second of the day what he is doing. I wouldn't want to live that way. I am so happy that I am with someone that I don't have to worry about anything.
Cheating is wrong. There is never a reason for it, just lousy excuses. If the relationship isn't working out the way you had hoped, sit down and talk to your significant other, don't turn to someone else and hope it all goes away. Emotional cheating can be more damaging than the physical cheating.
I agree that is is wrong and I couldn't do it. I do understand how it happens sometimes, though. No, I don't think that makes it okay and I won't start making excuses for anyone, but I'm just saying I get how some people wind up not resisting the temptation.
Cheating is the ultimate betrayal in any committed relationship. Sometimes the cheater may not think of it as cheating as long as there's nothing physical going on. I have never cheated on my husband and I will never ever do that. Even if he cheated on me, it has never crossed my mind to cheat on him. It's wrong no matter how you see it.
"Do unto others what you want others do unto you". No one likes to be cheated and so no one should be cheating. I do not find any good reason for cheating as we all can have self discipline and respect to others specially to your partners.
With regard to cheating, the only thing I ask of a person that I care about and am in a relationship with would be, that if they are going to cheat, please do it while we are still getting to know one another, if you are going to do it. So then I will know what your values are. I would rather find out, prior to marriage, if that is the way we are headed, than afterwards. I would leave the relationship before cheating on someone, it is a huge form of dishonesty in my opinion. The trust is eroded and things are never the same. You will always be wondering, what are they doing? It's too troublesome.
There is no excuse for it, plain and simple. Don't do something to your partner that you wouldn't want done to you. It's understandable that someone may not be happy in their relationship, looking for variety or just bored but that's no excuse to go and hurt your partner by betraying them. It's as simple as having a talk with your partner and explaining that you are not happy and want to end the relationship, then once it's over you can go to whomever it is that makes you happy. I would rather a million times have my heart broken by someone that does not love me the way I love them than to have my heart broken by being cheated on. Not only would I be devastated but I would be afraid opening my heart again and having someone cheat on me once again.
Cheating will always be unacceptable no matter how loose would be our morals. It is because this is a form of deception and betrayal which I think nobody would ever want to deal in the first place. I strongly believe that it would be better to get out of a relationship rather than cheat the other party. I always have a low respect for cheaters no matter how valid can their grounds be...
I am absolutely against it. I think if 2 people are in love with each other and have respect for each other, then this should never happen. Even if you are in a relationship with someone and it isn't going good, have the decency and morals to get out of it before resorting to cheating.
I think that the idea that "if I feel like cheating, I should do the decent thing and walk away from my partner" is a little flawed. After all, there are valleys that we must travel through in every relationship. There are times when you may be tempted to devote yourself to another person instead of your partner. But the truth is that you do not need to give into such temptations and destroy your relationship. Commitment is what helps a relationship to reach unforeseen heights. Peaks in your romantic life are meaningless unless you're able to share them with the person who you've already chosen as your soul mate.
I disagree. Let's say you marry someone who suddenly decides they have lost all interest in sex. Let's say that goes on for years. Are you supposed to never have sex again because you married the wrong person? Sex may not be an absolute need, but it is a force in human beings, and all other species. To say there is never any excuse for cheating is ridiculous. You assume sitting down and talking to your spouse would be effective. But some people are manipulative. Some people are malevolent. Some people are abusive. Some people don't want to blow up their impossible and unsatisfying relationships because they have kids. Making sweeping and judgemental statements just indicates a lack of understanding for the complexity of human relationships.
My view on cheating... Why people cheat? Is because they want to show that they can do this? For revenge? Maybe, but I think there is a much simple explanation. People cheat when they find someone better. At the same time they don't want, or are afraid to break-up the actual relationship. And this happens because they are insecure. They think the new person will not be as good as the first one so they're trapped. Remember ! A normal person, who is not afraid showing his/her point of view will never cheat. WinMan
Considering how many people cheat at some point, I don't think you can really say people who don't cheat are the only ones who are "normal." If anything, cheating is more the norm. And I also wouldn't agree that the only reason people don't want to break up a relationship is insecurity. Some people think they shouldn't break up their relationship because of children, or because their significant other is mentally ill or has a disease and needs help. There are many, many reasons people stay in relationships with problems, and sometimes it is because they take relationships more seriously than others do, and don't think they should be tossed away as the only possible response to issues.
There are so many people out there with childrens wich broke up and they're doing just fine. If you are willing to forgive the one who cheated on you, fine. If you want to break up, that's also fine. It all comes down to what type of person you are.
I would not cheat on someone or at least I cannot in a million years see myself doing that. To me it is an ultimate betrayal. But has anyone seen that show Unfaithful? I am shocked at how many of those people forgive their spouses for cheating. The one's husband even ended up being sued for sexual harassment and they had to pay a lot of money and he passed something on to his wife and she still forgave him.
I would never cheat on my husband. I have never been a cheater and feel that I owe enough respect for the other person to walk away. If I am feeling the need to cheat or have thoughts about cheating then I will stop myself beforehand and ask myself what is really going on. Many people cheat because someone else is giving them the attention that they are not receiving in the relationship. This step in the relationship should be when both parties talk about what is going on and make the steps to rekindle the fire in the relationship. Cheating should never be an option. I feel that cheating does not "just happen" it is something that happens through time. Even if it is just a one time thing, how can you have sex with someone that is not your partner and not think about them? I could not do it. The guilt would eat me alive.
I don't think there should be a stock response to someone cheating on you. The fact is that in over two thirds of relationships one partner is unfaithful at some point in time. Many couples manage to work through the issue and still have successful and loving relationships. A relationship whether it is a marriage or de facto is a valuable thing and so while for some people cheating will mean the end of that relationship it shouldn't be supposed that this is right for everybody. The ability to forgive is one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself.
Even if you are not happy with your present relationship, I still don't consider cheating valid. Well, why shouldn't you end your present relationship before getting yourself involved in a new one? For me, cheating is a crime so every cheater should be punished accordingly. I know everyone doesn't want to be cheated, so why do the things that you don't want to be done to you?
If you married the wrong person you should get out, not cheat. No, it's not. To say there is a valid excuse is ridiculous: there isn't. All of those situations indicate that the person is in the wrong relationship. That's not a reason to cheat: it's a reason to get out or get help. Cheating is the pathetic, cowardly alternative to taking responsibility and doing something about the situation. Just my opinion, of course.
