I am Asian and my husband is American. We have a lot of differences in life especially when we grew up. He grew up in a big New York City and I grew in a very quiet farm in the province. It is a fact that we are much different in terms of cultural background, family issues and relationships, country of origin, language and more things. The most 1 thing that common in us that we both believe in Jesus and love to go to church. As soon as our visa petition will approve, I will be move out and live together. I love my husband very much and want to spend the rest of my life with him. But life is not always a fun and there are misunderstandings especially on how the way we brought up and our culture. If you are on my place, what adjustments you need to do to avoid much misunderstanding, arguments or fighting? I want to hear from you. Thanks in advance.
I've come to know that Asians and Americans and/or Europeans is a great match in making kids. I am right? Anyway, I think it doesn't matter whether you're married to a fellow Asian, foreigner or otherwise. What's important is having to love and respect each other. One is the other's half. That's how I believe marriage is.
I believe that trust is the key. And for trust to be built, communication and respect should always be there. It doesn't matter what race you are. Individually, all of us differ in terms of culture and beliefs. Always remember that love and sincerity and of course, commitment, are the things that you should always have. Compromise is good, too, as long as it's taken into moderation.
A lot of American guys like foreign women, because they seem less spoiled and insane. I know I do. My last girlfriend was Korean. She was very nice and didn't try to boss me around all the time. I don't think nationalities matter so much as personality, but a person's culture does have a lot to do with that.
I believe there is no more enriching relationship than marrying a foregner. I'm from European-American ancestry and is impressive how two different cultures can melt into one making a unique lifestyle. I guess it's all about understanding, tolerance, and open mind to accept customs that otherwise sound strange to your own.
Re: Great match in making kids, I think so that what's people said as well. Thank you for the wonderful comment, yes, I agree love and respect is very important no matter what race is your partner.
That's cool. I guess Korean woman is cool and I like their beauty as well. Yes, culture really matters.
Yes, right..Like two individuals of different cultures from different places meet in one place and start a new life. Thanks for sharing your thought about this topic...God bless.
It's good that you both share the same beliefs and share many of your core values. That's basis of your relationship along with the love you share. There is no reason to think that you won't have a happy marriage for many years to come despite cultural differences. Just keep emphasizing what you have in common and minimize your differences and everything will come into balance as time goes along.
Isn't that hard that you both have different cultures and raise in different places? How do both of you adjust to one another especially in language barrier, cultural differences, beliefs, religion etc. How did you find yourself living with your husband? Sorry to ask you these things I am curious and want to know more about cultural differences.
Thank you for the wonderful advice and I will keep it in mind. Yes, I am so thankful that we have something in common that most couple disagreeing about.
We are not together yet bro, we are still on our visa process hopefully everything will be sort out by the end of August. It is very hard dealing with cultural differences. Many adjustments from the start especially about the language. We have different religion but we both believe in Jesus (born again). Our family is very important to us and I raised and have that idea to work to support my family. On the other hand, I learned something that we don't make our family lazy, instead giving them a source of income to work for themselves and will not give them everything for free ( I learned that from my husband). Our first year, being a couple was very hard...hehe..There are instance that I want to give up but thanks God everything goes fine. Little by little we find out the weakness of each other and our stronger point. We already know how to adjust the situation.
That is really nice! I really don't know the feeling being engage to a foreign man, all I know is that it is really hard and you have to be patient and understanding in every situation, you need to open up your mind to realize what is right and what is wrong. Goodluck on your relationship and I hope you live happy together.
Thank you, I am looking forward for that too. Yes, Patient and understanding is very important. Otherwise, America and the Philippines will meet at the Pacific Ocean...hehe. Just kidding. Need to understand each other culture and give time to listen with your partners' ideas and opinions.
His parents both died already. He is divorced and have daughters (grown up). I talked to his daughter on skype and exchanging emails with his brother and sisters.
Oh sorry for him, that would be hard on him. Thanks for sharing though. I hope you get along with her daughter, goodluck then.
Communication is the best way to work out relationship differences. Just tell him what you do and do not like. Or how you get used to things because of your own culture. You'll never go wrong with heart-to-heart talks.
