How to Improve Self Confidence

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  1. James Brown

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    Low self esteem levels can ruin the future of an individual. Yes, you heard that right. An individual with low self esteem will not take many opportunities and chances where he can prove himself and explore his possibilities. These people are always the kinds that are too scared to even think about the process that they refuse to even take the first step. This has nothing to do with being a coward. Although many simply call a person with self esteem as a coward, they fail to motivate and encourage them to do things that they otherwise won’t do.

    Being positive and being surrounded by positive people will naturally give you a boost that will make you want to push boundaries. Hence see to it that you are always around such people. Critics and other individuals who hate what you do will obviously try pushing you down because they just can’t see you grow. Well, that is the case most of the time. Jealousy and envy makes one a good critic.

    Lack of motivation by parents to their children can make the kids feel that they are good for nothing, and that can definitely become a huge mark in their personality. When your child starts withdrawing from activities and events talk to him or her and ask them the reason. Actually, in younger kids, a way to develop their self esteem is by getting them involved in a lot of activities and events that they like. Tell them that winning does not matter and that only participation does.

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    You're making good points with your recent posts on self esteem.
     
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    Confidence and self-esteem are not the same thing, although they are often linked. Confidence is the term we use to describe how we feel about our ability to perform roles, functions and tasks. Self-esteem is how we feel about ourselves, the way we look, the way we think - whether or not we feel worthy or valued.
     
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    I combine these two traits to get ahead.
     
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    Great thoughts. I think getting our kids involved have been easy for my wife and I because our parents got us involved with activities as kids. I have 2 boys and the natural activities to get them started were sports since both my wife and participated in our youth. As kids get older they will find their own way to other activities that may be outside the box of what you have done. Example my oldest is in band and chorus at school. I never participated in any activity in the arts but wanted to try and he is really enjoying it. He will practice pieces for me at home and I am there for all of the concerts. Yes, being there, letting your kids try new things and supporting them will go a long way with raising confident, well adjusted kids.
     
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    Seek within yourself to find out what makes you happy. Letting go of things that don't serve you and being kind to self. www.annmagana.com
     
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    Low self esteem and confidence can be very deep rooted. Traced back to old beliefs, views and agreements that we harness. Self images that we have bought into as the final vedrict of who we are. The first step in breaking these negative and corrosive thought patterns is to step back and observe our mind at work. It is shocking at times how the mind can work against us if we let it go. By taking the time everyday, like brushing our teeth, we can refocus our thoughts and consciously replace negative thoughts with positive ones and restructure our beliefs. Each day is an oppertunity to engage in activity that strengthens our confidence and chips away at the layers. Keeping a daily journal can help gain momentum and clarity towards self awareness. Start the day with a boost of positive reading and silent reflection. Discover pursue your passions. Redefine failure and keep trying.
     
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    Celebrating every small goal can make a huge goal look like another baby step away, thus improving self confidence. That is what I always tell myself. :) Hope this helps.
     
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    Sometimes it can be easy to focus on what you haven’t done. It’s easy to lose confidence if you feel like you haven’t achieved anything. Focusing on stuff you have done, big or small, can help you gain perspective on all your talents and abilities.
     
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    I think whether or not people are generally confident or generally have high self esteem, most people have situational confidence...meaning in certain surroundings, such as with family, or friends who they know they can confide in and doing something that truly resonates with them such as painting if they are a great artist, they have an abundance of confidence and self esteem in these situations.

    However it's just the task of transforming this situational confidence into core confidence, where they can feel truly themselves and stand tall in any given situation or place!

    Do what you love...then build your whole life around it!!
     
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    Good observation! Thanks for your insight.
     
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    Indeed, self-confidence is a very serious matter that needs to be addressed right away most especially if a person is losing this deliberately. Lack of confidence often results to depression which can be worse. As the saying goes, "No man is an island." There are times in life when we would need the support of other people around us. Even a simple tap at the back or simple words like "Good job!" are enough to somehow boost the confidence that's somewhat dormant from within. Spend time reading some helpful articles from helpful web sites that promote self-confidence and success.
     
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    7 WAYS TO BUILD SELF-ESTEEM

    1. Positive self-talk
    2. Don’t strive for perfection
    3. Don’t compare yourself to others
    4. Focus on the things you can change
    5. Surround yourself with supportive people
    6. Remind yourself of the benefits.
    7. Handle mistakes and failures in a more positive way.
     
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    I honestly believe that lack of self confidence is caused by fear. And fear itself is caused by negative thinking.
    I sincerely hope that no one here is cured of fear or negative thinking by the experience that cured me - a heart attack and a double heart bypass!
    There is a much more gentle way to cure your fear. If anyone is interested I have written a post about it here
    http://helpurself2success.com/negative-thinking-can-destroy-your-life/
     
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    That's a useful insight. Thanks!
     
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    Smiling will not only make you feel better, but will make others feel more comfortable around you. Imagine a person with good posture and a smile and you'll be envisioning someone who is self-confident. So always be happy and confident which also gives you positivity for all day to day activities .
     
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    Ye, smiling is so important and it really amplifies positive feelings.

    I always start getting up with a big smile :)which makes me happy from the beggining
    :p
     
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    Confidence is the result of preparedness.
     
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    Believe in yourself.Everybody in this world is unique. We must all learn to accept that. Love yourself, nothing boosts self confidence more than loving and believing in yourself.
     

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