Stay Sexy


THE FIORE REPORT ON SEXUALITY

Seven simple steps that can ensure continued sexual satisfaction.

STAY SEXY YOUR ENTIRE LIFE 


 If you are over 50 and want the best life has to offer, you probably desire a passionate,stimulating sex life, too.  If you are under 50 you probably wonder what you have to look forward to sexually when your  half-century birthday rolls around.  

This FIORE REPORT ON SEXUALITY  provides simple, easy-to-follow steps that can ensure your being sexy in your 50's, 60s, 70s-and beyond!  Our report contains good news you should read before you get one day older! 


THE GOOD NEWS 

  • Research definitely shows that sex after 60 can actually be BETTER than ever.
  • Enjoyment can increase as partners continue to share love, life, fun, and intimacy throughout the years  A Recent poll of 6,000 men and women over age 60 reported that 37 percent still had sex at least once a week. 
  • A Masters & Johnsons' study of 250 sexually active couples found that frequency of  intercourse declined only a slight amount between the ages of 60 and 70. 
  • Married men in their sixties claim they experience deeper sexual satisfaction than when they were 20 and single, while older married women admit they are sexually happier than they were when younger - as long as they successfully  
    dealt with the physical and emotional changes than accompanied menopause. 
  • Studies reveal that 62% of healthy men and 30% of healthy women  between 80-102 years of age still have sexual intercourse!  Many older couples describe a satisfying sex 
    life consisting of touching and caressing as forms of sexual expression and love toward one another, even though they don't have intercourse. 


The idea of having a full and rewarding sex life (even until we're 100!) is,undoubtedly, appealing.  Physicians, clinicians, and sex researchers know it can be possible to ensure an active sex life - no matter how many birthdays we've had. 
 


 1. CULTIVATE YOUR VERY OWN IRRESISTIBLE APHRODISIACS

A vigorous and well-cared-for body and a lively personality are two of the most  powerful aphrodisiacs known to man (and woman)!  Best of all, you can have them with you at all times if you want them.  Imagine, homegrown ever-ready aphrodisiacs.  And they're legal, too!   

Staying healthy, fit, and vibrant not only makes us out-wardly attractive and alluring to others, but both help us feel sexy, desirable, and confident,too.  That confidence creates your "sexual energy," a seductive charisma guaranteed to awaken a partner's sexual interest.   

Naturally, the most obvious way to stay healthy and fit is to TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF: don't smoke, do use alcohol moderately, control your blood pressure and weight, eat a well-balanced diet, get regular exercise and adequate rest.  And remember,regular check-up visits to your physician must be an essential part of your sexual-fitness program, too. 

Best of all, couples who work to stay healthy together enjoy the added benefit of building emotional closeness while they share a sport or fitness activity.  Taking brisk walks together, for instance, gives couples an opportunity to talk,share ideas and feelings, relax the nervous system - and give two respiratory systems and happy hearts a healthy workout. 


 

2. THINK YOUNG, FUN, AND - YES - SEXY 
 
When you watch someone who is enthusiastic, youthful, jovial, and having a good time, do you even notice how OLD that person is?  Probably not.  Most likely you just want to get to know that person and be part of the high spirits. And when you keep your attitude and behavior youthful and playful, YOU'LL be the person others are attracted to and want to be with. 

Often, youthful people who are 50+ feel guilty because they  
frequently think about sex the way they did when they were 20 years old.  Surely - they fear - it must be nonsense for someone with graying hair and mature stature to have the lusty notions and urges of a post-adolescent.  DON'T YOU BELIEVE IT!   

You're SUPPOSED to think about sex the same way you did when you were 20 - you just might no think about it as 
often.  Nonetheless, your personal approach to sex at 50 and beyond is supposed to be as titillating, erotic, and creative as it was when you were 25.  Feel and be sexual without guilt!  Loosen up and be inventive!  Go ahead and have more fun than 
you did years ago.(But always be responsible, of course.) 


3. PLAN ON HAVING GOOD SEX!

 
As we get older, GOOD SEX ALSO REQUIRES GOOD TIMING.  Are you a morning person?  A night owl?  What about your partner?  The best time to make love is when you 
and your partner are the most responsive (as men mature, that time is usually in the morning)  - so GOOD SEX ALSO REQUIRES SOME PLANNING. 

As often as possible, clear everybody out of the house so you and your partner can be as uninhibited as you want to be.  Get rid of the kids for a while-- and send the grandkids home to their parents, for a change. 

Once alone, take time to enjoy yourselves.  Men- absolutely turn off the TV! Turn down the lights.  Or turn them all on!  Why not light candles?  Add music?  Share the tub or shower?  Play an erotic and seductive board game?  Watch a romantic or 
sexy video? 

Give each other relaxing, sensual massages.  Have you ever used whipped cream in the bedroom?  Peanut butter? (You can't imagine the fun you can have with ice cubes!) 
Take your clothes all off.  Or put on costumes! 

Make love in the kitchen.  Or on a blanket in the back yard under your favorite tree at midnight.  Then do it (again)  at high noon! 

Let your imagination and sense of sexual adventure lead you and your partner into a glorious world of new delights, sensations, and shared joys. When you run out of ideas, there are plenty of books and videos on the market to help you discover new ones.  Sex will never be boring again.  And neither will your life.  All it takes  is a little creativity, time, and planning.  So-- PLAN ON IT! 


4.  THE CARDINAL RULE:  JUST DO IT. AND DO IT. AND DO IT!

Masters and Johnson, those famous sex researchers, claimed that continuing to have sex was the "cardinal rule for preserving sexual vigor beyond middleage."  Post-menopausal women who are sexually active have less shrinkage of the vagina and higher levels of naturally produced sex hormones than do sexually inactive women.   

Likewise,men who are sexually active as they pass through middle age and beyond maintain higher blood testosterone levels than those who stop having sex.  The bottom line is that if you keep on doing it, you better ensure your likelihood of being able to keep on doing it.   

In other words:  Use it or lose it.  It's really that simple. (clich or not). 


5. SEND SEX MESSAGES -- AS MANY WAYS AS YOU CAN.

The key to the best relationship is always COMMUNICATION. If you don't talk about your sex life and feelings with each other, how can you get your message across and let 
your desires be known? Sex therapists KNOW that a good sexual relationship is greatly enhanced and ensured by an open, communicative, caring, affectionate relationship. 

Achieving a closer, more loving relationship with your partner is a crucial component of your sexual-fitness program.  It's difficult for sexual harmony to co-exist with marital distance and conflict, submerged resentment, basic incompatibility, or lack of positive feelings toward each other.   

Such barriers to communication must be addressed because they increasingly inhibit sexual feelings as we grow older and as our basic biological sexual urges diminish.   If poor communication is a problem in a relationship, a couple should seek the help of a therapist in order to develop deeper levels of intimacy, love and understanding, and greater shared physical enjoyment -the reward can be a richer, fuller, more exciting life. 

Remember, too, that we also send sexy messages in very simple, ordinary ways, too:  be relaxed and interested in each other; avoid drinking too much alcohol; pay special attention to body and oral hygiene; be willing to learn new ways to touch and please one another. 


6. EXPECT IT TO BE DIFFERENT, BUT EXPECT IT TO BE GOOD. 

There's no question our bodies - and its responses - change as we age.   

But those changes shouldn't concern or worry us.  For men over 50, erections will usually be sturdy and reliable - although they might take a little longer to achieve and won't be as hard as a 20-year-olds. 

The forcefulness of ejaculation and orgasm may be slightly less than in the past, and more time might be required between repeat performances.  The older man, in particular might require more direct stimulation of is genitals to be ready for sex - unlike during his younger days when his reaction and response was spontaneous, immediate, and often. 

As a woman ages, however, her clitoris is not affected and her capacity for orgasm and sexual interest normally remains unchanged.  But thinning of the vaginal walls can contribute to painful or uncomfortable intercourse, as can an inability to 
adequately lubricate; many of these conditions can be reversed upon advice of her physician. 

Understanding, accepting, and working with these minor and normal bodily changes can definitely help a couple create and enjoy a satisfying sex life; there are presently many resources available to help couples learn how to do all three. 


7.  GET HELP FOR SPECIFIC SEX PROBLEMS   

A man's declining interest and ability to make love are often linked to his health, and a visit to a physician is definitely in order whenever a distinct change  in lovemaking becomes evident.  it is not yet known whether change results because of the physical effects on sexual functioning of an illness, or whether illness merely alters the man's perception of his vigor. 

The perception of loss of vigor is most clearly seen in  heart-attack victims.  There is a false belief  that it is common for people with heart conditions to die during intercourse; one study showed that only .06 percent of deaths from sudden heart attacks were caused by sexual activity, and the vast majority of those cases involved extramarital  
affairs.